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36-40,
anonymous
writes:hey guys, so basically tonight, me and my friend went to see a show and my ex from 3 years ago was there, we bumped into her and ended up hanging out with her and her friend all night.however, my ex was just hanging out with me most of the night, talking to me, taking alot of pictures with me and her/of me and buying me drinks. when the show finished, we said our goodbyes, and she hugged me, then hugged me again and kissed me on the cheek. when we went our seperate ways i got a text msg from her saying she would like to meet up for dinner one day and have a day together! its kind of messed with my head, i used to really like her, i thought i loved her when we were together and then we broke up and i was depressed for ages. i have a long term partner and so does she, which makes her actions even more strange. is this normal for an ex to do? what should i be thinking? how should i approach this situation? please help, i cant sleep :(
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reader, Lib1  +, writes (15 September 2009):
 I think you might want someone to tell you something could still be there. But the truth is you shouldn't even be thinking about that as much as thinking about how your significant long term partner would feel about the situation. If you are questioning her actions and you are truly committed to this new partner then you need to cut it off.
If you are mainly obsessed with what your ex meant by these actions I would say its time to choose. Risk ending it with your partner now for the chance your ex MIGHT still have feelings or tell her that dinner would be nice but you've been very busy lately and show your current partner the respect he or she deserves by stopping communication with your ex.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (15 September 2009):
 DONT DO IT!You cant find love in your relationship if you are looking outside of it.You will be very sorry and hurt your current GF needlessly if you pursue this. And why you even let it go this far with the picture taking and all of that shows a true lack of respect for your current GF.
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