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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:my boyfriend wants to have sex with me but im still a virgin and scared. wht should I do?
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reader, Kama  +, writes (12 June 2010):
 Protect yourself! Like the others are saying, there is a reason that you're gut is telling you to wait. You are very young, and many adults regret losing their virginity at a young age - there is NOTHING wrong with waiting until you know you are ready - wait as long as you want; there is nothing wrong with that - you are so young; there is very little chance that the person you are considering sex with will stay with you - ask anyone on here; it's better to wait until you're a bit older and really know that you are ready.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2010): thank you so much!
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (12 June 2010):
 Listen to what your gut is telling you. The fact that you are scared indicates that you are not ready for this type of relationship. Do not allow yourself to be manipulated or "guilted into" having sex. You will regret it if you do. Wait until you are older and ready. Your comfort level will tell you when having sex is appropriate.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 June 2010):
 If you don't feel ready ( and at your age there's no way you can possibly be ready ) don't do it. Just say no. Don't let anybody, now or in future, talk you into or pressure you inhto doing something that you are scared of !
That would be so simple and intuitive, that I think the real question you have in mind is : and what if ,when I say no, he dumps me ?... Then he is a selfish little bully that has no concern and no respect for you, and has no businhess staying in your life.
I know it's difficult for you- but trust me, it's never too early to learn being assertive and standing up for yourself. You don't want to become a doormat, do you ?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (12 June 2010):
I don't think you're ready yet, so I would suggest that you wait and tell him that you're not ready. Don't be pushed into doing something that you don't want to do.
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