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writes:so i have been dating this guy for 7 weeks now.We finally decided to have sex.But now im soo worried.Its coz i have stretch marks on my ass n boobs.Im shy to be naked in front of him. I'm confused as too what he will think and if this will bring any issue in our relationshp.Im not fat im lik size 8 (53kgs) but its just on my boobs and ass. what should i do so that i dont feel bad or shy or embarrassed and carry on with a good relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): I don't have advise but I can relate. i don't mind my strech marks infact I think I'll be lucky if I had your problem.
I have a saggy mid section and I never take my top off if the lights are on and only get naked when they are off. The guy never complained though.
So basicly what I'm trying to say is don't feel too bad about your strech marks because there are weirder bodies out there that still get laid. Besides guys are more interested in pleasing you and how you respond to them.
Hope this gives you a bit more confidence.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): i had the same proplem i have 3rd degree burns across my whole back. i met my boy friend and we didnt have sex 4 a while and somewhere in between i told him about my marks. he wasnt concerned. well the first time we had sex he helped me unbutton my shirt and he was so causght up looking at my front in amazement he didnt even see my back. and honestly if he would have he wouldnt of cared. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): he will not notice. Be yourself. Believe in yourself. You are probably vastly more attractive than you think you are. There are women at all levels of perceived attractiveness, plus and minus, where the same women think they are great. What other people think of you is none of your business, because that is their problem, to deal with as they see fit. It is what you think of you that is the issue to address. Please try not to be so hard and disapproving of you. If you can't love you how can you expect anyone to love you? good luck with your new romance
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (12 November 2010):
 Agreed, guys aren't going to be eyeballing your stretch marks when they're too busy tearing off your clothes!
Who says the lights have to be on?? I like doing it in the dark, with the moon light shining in the window.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): When a man and woman make love, a good part of that comes from what is on the inside, not outside. Chances are he wont care even if you had stadium lights in ur bedroom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): I think it might help if you sat down with him and explained your insecurities about your body. Just tell him that although you would really like to have sex, you are nervous about what he will think of your body. Maybe you could even explain exactly what it is you are worried about (the stretch marks), if you felt comfortable to do that. It will give him a chance to reassure you. I know the worries won't go away, and you will probably still be anxious about being naked in front of him. But it might help take the edge off if you know he is already aware of your concerns.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (12 November 2010):
The post below pretty much said it all. I also doubt that he will even notice. But again, if you are worried, dim lighting and candles might make you feel more comfortable.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (12 November 2010):
 Trust me when I say that he really won't care or possibly even notice your stretch marks. Really, he'll just be happy to see some skin.
Maybe start off with dim lighting, candle light or a lamp facing the wall...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): ~I'm proud of my stretch marks. They're a symbol of my Precious daughter, my life~
I have stretch marks on my lower belly, and oh well...
If he has a problem or issue with them, than obviously he doesn't love you because true love is loving all of you not just portions of you...
~You're not an orderve platter~
And reality is, all of our bodies goes South with age. You want someone who stay with you when your all shribbly wibbly.
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