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writes:let me clarify, sorry about that but answer will be appreciated Okay, I'm a long distance relationship here... we been going out for 8 months but in august she went to college to another city. sometimes she comes to visit but we do have problems. For example, we argue, have like miscommunication every other day and she some times disrespects me as thou I'm not worth anything to her. For example, she treats me as im nothing but then she tries to fix it. Also she sometimes talks about guys and stuff which we males get sometimes jealous and stuff. We been doing fine but since we went to long distance just things seems to be difficult.. I try to talk to her but she sometimes does not want to listen because she thinks the stuff i say is useless and when she says something she makes seem as thou it is important and if i dont understand it she gets upset and starts ignoring me and says she just wanted to do that so that she could think about things When i call her, she mostly not listening to me for example she is talking to her room mates and stuff and making jokes and stuff. But eventually she says sorry in that sarcastic tone and she says she wont do it again. but still does.. and I"m the one who's always texting her and stuff. And she replies like in 10- 20 or maybe an hour minutes saying that she was eating, with friends, studying or other stuff.Well i too go to college but i always make time for her and stuff and whenever she calls me i answer to her. but sometimes she wants me to do things quick for for example, answer her text quicker and stuff. Yes she is my first gf and yeah she told me about her past relationship which was 3 relationships and she told me everything about them. and yes we got closer with one another. I do trust her and i know she wont be lying, but she is giving me too much drama and stuff. Like she gets upset with the certain friends i hang out and ridicules me about them while i dont when she is hanging out with some guys and friends over there. She tells me everything but i sometimes think she is not telling me the whole truth. She tells me she loves and is in love with me and I'm her first love.Like 2 days ago she said things in which she tried to do to hurt me and she sometimes does this to me. For example she said "okay it is over and do not do this and that" and saying "you will be making a mistake leaving me and will never find someone like me" as thou it is joke.. And she gets all mad at me because she said i do nothing in this relationship. For example, she thinks i do no have time for her but i always do. She coming soon like in 2 weeks back... Idk what to do, should i end it? because she is causing to much drama and yes it is causing my grades to go down because of this. idk what to do, should i stay with her or end it? i do care for her alot but idk what to. please help me, I'll appreciate it
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (12 November 2010):
 Well yeah LDRs are hard, they're not for everyone. I'll tell you the main reason they fail is lack of communication...which is your girlfriend's fault. She complains that you don't make time for her, when she's always brushing off your texts and phone calls for other activities that can wait. I agree she sounds full of herself and potentially a drama queen. What I don't understand is why you didn't end it before you guys went long distance, it's obvious she still treated you like crap then..Anyways, I would dump her preferably do it before she comes to visit you so you'll avoid a nasty break up. Just explain, that you can't do this long distance anymore, it's hurting your grades and it's best you go your separate ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): You are very young yet and I guess your gf is too. It sounds to me as if you are getting too much grief over this relationship and you should seriously consider whether it's worth carrying on with it. She sounds very mixed up and it is only you who can decide whether to carry on and hope things will get better. Personally, I think it's rude of her to talk to her friends whilst you are on the phone. It could be that she's been very hurt herself and is in some way putting up barriers to stop you getting too close. She also sounds insecure when she says that you have no time for her when obviously you are trying your best. Good luck anyway, hope things work out - as I said you are very young and if this relationship doesn't last the course, you will have learned from it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): Hey,
I hate to say this but i have found myself in the same experience with some things in my LDR. Sometimes I think its just me but sometimes I think its her with the replying to text. It feels like I will send 3-4 and it takes her 8-9 hours to respond yes or no. However if I wait the night . She wont respond for another 14-15 hrs or will respond with 2-3 word text messages. Well I have been realizing that Im doing it to myself. Its me thats keeping track and I feel thats away from what I want in life.
I'd suggest tho reading this because if you just sit back and relax you can totally let go of the struggle(or at least see a different view).
http://sparklife.info/blog/2009/06/ego-relationship/
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