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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2010): Heyy. I've been through the same thing I'm still going through it. I'm 13 and gay all the wayy. I'm looking for a boyfriend to. I've had 4 already ym frist was online. He was 17 from england. But after about a week I found out he was cheating on me. So those don't really work. But if you find gay boys older than you on say like facebook and become really good friends with you, make sure there arround your age. Learn a lot about them. There 16 and 15. And the other and the other 3 boyfriends I've had only 2 of the 3 cheated. The other was nice and amazing but I wasn't feeling it any more. I love this kid Noah. He's 13 my age and goes to my school. He acts kinda gay/bi. I've loved him for 2 years and things seem to be going great were realy good friends. All I gotta say is reply to me on here and maybe we could get in touchl Goodluck to ya!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010): The first thing you need to do is determine your definition of a boyfriend. Do you want love? Sex? or just someone to hang out with?
Now, if you're looking for love, STOP. It is not something you can look for; it comes to you. If you look for it, you'll bump into all sorts of wrong people and will end up a sorts of a Ms. Havisham (Great Expectations ;) )with a broken heart. Trust me, I've been there and it's not a nice place to be.
Second, if it's sex you want, I urge you to postpone it. Whether you have already done it or not. Sex is meant to be the last expression of love; when words get to mean nothing. And if it's a hanging out buddy that you want, you should seriously stop referring to it as a "gay" arena. Anyone can be your hanging out partner ... Hope you take the advice to heart; I'd hate to see yet another broken heart. There are enough of those already.
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reader, der_zyniker +, writes (15 November 2010):
Online relationships are a bad idea at your age. I know that you want a boyfriend right now. I know how that feels. You have to be patient. Wait until you find someone that you really like and then see if it can work. However, when that happens, don't tell them that you like them at first if you don't know if they are gay or not. Telling one of my friends that I love him sort of ruined the friendship and we don't talk anymore. Tell them instead that you are gay and them decide whether you should tell them that you like them based on the way that they react.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (12 November 2010):
 Don't rush it, hon. Right now, focus on finding your flow, your friends at school. If they have GSA club, join! GSA- gay straight alliance. You can make friends/connections there that will set you on the path to finding a boyfriend. Just try and avoid older bfs. The thing about online dating is: creeps, perverts, jerks and losers. Like Aunt Honesty said, you might think your talking to 14yr old Mike and it's really 75yr old trucker Joe :/ Yuck. Trust me they can trick you with cam 2 by showing pre-recordings. So, take it easy and be careful. You'll find a bf. Just be patient, its hard but not impossible :) Put yourself out there, join sports, clubs, etc. and who knows? You could find someone nice. Be friends first. Always. But do not try "hitting on" someone you know nothing about, especially if you dont know if hes gay. All the best!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 November 2010):
 At your age you would really need to be cautious of online dating because there are a lot of sicko's out there that can go online pretending there a teenage boy when they are a 60 year old man, so if you do decide to take up something like this then be really really careful.
Is there anyone close to you that you could talk to about this? Maybe a parent? Ok so not many schools have support groups for gay/lesbian relationships but lots off colleges and universaties have groups maybe you could look in to seeing if you could join one of those groups, ok so they might be college students that are there with you, but it is a start and you will get to know guys that have gone through the same thing as you and are willing to help you. Goodluck.
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reader, ruby buttons  +, writes (12 November 2010):
 online relationships are not a bad idea but i would be very wary of who is out there, as you are only 14 and still finding your sexuality there is alot of older men online who will prey on you and you do not want this.
what hobbys are you into? maybe join a group there are plenty of places out there that you can join and meet new people i would firstly find friends and then meeting a boyfriend will happen, i know its a cliche but you are young and there are plenty of guys out there but i would find some like minded people and make friends, if you do go online find friends first dont jump into a relationship as most men are after one thing! hope this helps x
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