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writes:I've been in a relationship for 6 months now and I'd really appreciate some opinions as I feel I'm reaching a crossroads.The first four months were amazing, full of affection and excitement. There were lots of texts, "I love you"s etc. We spent most of the weekends together, saw each other 1 or 2 nights during the week, and phoned for an hour or so on most of the nights we weren't together.But in the last couple of months it feels like she's really cooled off. Mainly the little things to be honest - less time together, less texting (with most contact initiated by me now), and less affection. The trouble is these things are really important to me.I've spoken to her, telling that I've noticed this change and explaining how it makes me feel and that I want to understand. She says that she loves me and still wants to be with me. But she says that she's not an affectionate person, and she says that she can't see how or when we'll move to the next level (living together and so on).So, in people's opinion and experience, could she be preparing the ground for the end or does she just need some patience? I love this girl so much but I'm scared she's going to break my heart.
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reader, meela  +, writes (4 April 2008):
uhm the way i see it is that she needs a little time on her own..but that doesnt mean that you gona break up or anything bad..when she tells you she loves you den you should believe her!!!!!!give her time to think things through about the next level..remember good things come to those who wait!!!patience is a virtue!goodluck and be safe
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reader, Cindy303  +, writes (1 April 2008):
 There is never a guarantee that your heart will never be broken, but, that should never stop us from loving somebody. Does your girlfriend know your in love with her? Six months is still early in the relationship to be talking about the next level like moving in or getting engaged. I would just take it slow. She may need more time to learn to become more affectionate with you. If you love her and she loves you, dont give up. Be patient with her. She may be "the one". Take your time with her.
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (1 April 2008):
 It doesn't sound like she's going to end it with you. It just sounds like she needs a little time to herself too. It is always impossible to tell if someone's going to break up with you unless you have done something to deserve it. It really is impossible to tell. She could be cooling off because she feels that now she has your attention, she doesn't need to work as hard anymore. That can happen. If she tells you she still loves you then believe her. Relationships are mostly about trust, remember.
Wishing you the best.
xx
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (1 April 2008):
 hey well of what i can see your girl friend needs time,she needs space.ask yourself if you give her the time and space..may be when you guys hit it off at the beginning the love was in the air of course it still is but now its kinda settling down!!!you have your answer all ready she saying THAT SHE DOES NOT KNOW WHEN U CAN MOVE TO THE NEXT LEVEL says it all!!!give her time,and have patience hings wil work out..you dont have to ask her anything that wil only makes things worse!!she knows what to do!!!u just have to wait and see..good luck!!!
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