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writes:me and my boyfriend have been together 7and half months, he means everything to me and we've started to touch each other but i do want to have sex with him but we're not sure, im scared of gettin pregnant at 14, but do you think im pushing to far with the sex he doesn't know i want it! but i do really love him he means alot to me, can anyone help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): Then......"maybe, :/ i dont fall for anything :Sor anyone!"Now...."how do you know i don't love him, he aint my first sweetheart, i know i love him! i dont need anyone patronising me about what you think i know i do and that all that matters alright."You need to check yourself girl cause ur making no sense..plus why you here if you know all the answers? pleasee
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reader, MissConfused.com +, writes (17 April 2010):
 Honestly fellow agony aunts, I don't see why we are bothering to help her...She posted because she wasn't sure and you all give her ADVICE to HELP her, not to rule her life yet she doesn't understand this. Instead she she replies 'how do you know i don't love him, he aint my first sweetheart, i know i love him! i dont need anyone patronising me about what you think i know i do and that all that matters alright.'How are we patronising her? She asked for our help and if she knows better than us, let her crack on with it!I'm sorry, go ahead and answer if you want, but if she wants to talk to us like that, she doesn't deserve our help!xox
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2010): First of all 14 is such a young age to have sex... Practice a bit of self control... I know hormones are raging at this age and you want to try out something new but try to hold back... Judging from your question, I am assuming you are a virgin... You still young and you want your first time with him to be special... Give it some time, seven months is a short time for a relationship... If you can't restrain yourself, use a condom!
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (14 April 2010):
 You say you love him, you say he is the "one".
Does that mean you are prepared for him to go to jail, if he has sex with you?
Now, I am not going to patronise you, but I am going to treat you like an Adult. Adults have to obey the laws of the country, otherwise they go to JAIL.
Let me bring to your attention the Sexual Offenses Act 2003.
http://www.opsi.gov.uk/acts/acts2003/ukpga_20030042_en_2#pt1-pb5-l1g9
Being in the UK, you are subject to certain LAWS. If you break them, it is a crime and can be punishable by jail time.
If you are UNDER 16, it is ILLEGAL to have any kind of sexual relationship. This includes fingering, handjobs, oral sex, (blow jobs), and penetration of the vagina and anus. Any sexual touching is an offense.
At 14, you cannot consent to sex. It would be RAPE, regardless of if you said yes, or even made him do it to you.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/switch/surgery/advice/sex_relationships/sex/age_of_consent/
What happens if you have underage sex?
The law sees it as sexual assault - it's a criminal offence. This is because in the eyes of the law we are unable to give informed consent to sex when still a child.
•A boy who has sex with a girl under 16 (17 in NI) is breaking the law. Even if she agrees.
•If she is 13-15, the boy could go to prison for two years.
•If she is under 13 he could be sentenced to life imprisonment.
•A girl age 16 or over who has sex with a boy under 16 can be prosecuted for indecent assault.
SO, now the BIG question. Do you love your boyfriend enough to wait until you are of legal age to consent to sex, OR as you are age 14, would you be prepared to see your boyfriend sent to PRISON for TWO years just because you wanted sex?
So, are you going to act like a grown up and wait, or be a spoilt child and throw a tantrum because you might not get your own way? We are not here to stop you from having fun we are only looking out for your best interests. And sometimes as an adult we have to do things we might not want to do, and WAIT and have PATIENCE. You should try it.
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reader, Madeyoye  +, writes (14 April 2010):
 Common am not saying you don't Love him.all am trying to say is if he truly Love you then he can wait still you are ready for Sex...Don't Get me wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhow do you know i don't love him, he aint my first sweetheart, i know i love him! i dont need anyone patronising me about what you think i know i do and that all that matters alright.
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reader, Polaroid93 +, writes (14 April 2010):
You will regret it later in life trust me, I know a few people who lost it that young and they feel like slags now. Don't do it
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reader, shani08  +, writes (14 April 2010):
 Ok first off i lost my virginity at 15 and i still think i was way too young. You say you really love him but honey he may be your first sweetheart but its not love. I say have sex with him if you want, but please use protection go on the pill and use a condom and research it a bit if u need to, just to have any questions about how it works and what can happen answered, i did and it really helped me. Sex is great but i find it so much better now than i did back then, not just because of the pleasure but because of the emotional connection and understanding of it all. Good luck xo
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reader, Madeyoye +, writes (14 April 2010):
Gurl Frnd you are too Young to think Abt Sex at age 14,you need to give your self More time to study and knw the guy very well don't jst fall into conclusion in early stage.If he truly Love you the way you do i think he should be able to wait still you are ready for that.Take your time and don't jump into conclusion but if you feel you can't help the situation anymore Use a CONDOM.
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (14 April 2010):
 wait until you are ready to have babies( emotionally and financially)
Why the rush?................it's wonderful with the right person but to do it just cause it's really gay
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): I was 14 when I lost my virginity and it was the biggest mistake I ever made. However, this situation was a little different because I did NOT have feelings for the boy and it was a one off.
You may not feel so young at the moment but you really ARE very young and I think youll regret it. If you do end up having sex with him, then I'd suggest you go to your doctor and get put on the pill. If not, make sure you use condoms EVERYTIME you do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmaybe, :/
i dont fall for anything :S
or anyone!
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (14 April 2010):
 at your age girls falls in love with puppies flowers and rockstars at the drop of a dime.
if you love picture him scarred and burned over 90% of his body then see if you can still love him.
Your a humanbeing you have needs wants and desires but i can tell you sleeping around with a guy at your age wont have good effects.
Choice is your but im telling you to wait till your older and married to this guy before you do anything.
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reader, df30 +, writes (14 April 2010):
your 14 chill out on the sex stuff, just knocked up my girlfriend shes 19 and im 20 i still have another year of college to go, sex is fun yeah but wait. if you can't wait then use condoms, the pill, latex suit whatever, i trusted the pill a little too much... just wait it out youll live without sex and if hes any kind of man he will to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): Wait until you KNOW you are ready. At age 14, you should not be worried about sex and babies. At age 14, you should be worried about your grades and if you'll win your next football game. Hell, I didn't even get my first KISS until well after I turned 15!
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reader, SeXylOvE12 +, writes (14 April 2010):
 Honey, you're only 14. You really should wait. I was 17 when i lost mine and i wish i would have waited longer. It will change your relationship with your boyfriend. Neither of you are emotionally ready for such a personal encounter. You may think you're ready, but a few years down the road you'll realize how young you really are. You still have so much growing up to do. I would advise you to wait.
If you do decide that you are going to have sex going on birth control would be a good option. Otherwise make sure that you use a condom every time.
Only have sex if you're responsible enough to make sure you take the proper precautions and deal with possible consequences.
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