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writes:Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months and I've kept him waiting sexually this long, hes starting to anxious but he says he'll wait as long as I need. I know he really cares for me and would wait but part of me too is getting anxious and wanting to give it to him. Theres one problem.. I'm scared. Part of me thinks my body isn't correct, like I won't be sexually attractive to him. Ridiculous to think that my body won't be formed right, but I am. I hear stories that float around of girlfriends smelling bad, or looking gross, and I just don't want one of those rumors to be me, if and when we split. I'm feeling really frustrated. I have seen his body, and have pleased him, but he wants to do things with me. Like it be fingering/eating out or whatever. I'm also afraid of it being painful, or gross? Haha, I'm such a worrier. Any advice would be very much appreciated! [:
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reader, -NothingLasts4ever-  +, writes (9 July 2009):
 I was the same age as you when I lost mine and I felt the same way as you. My boyfriend said he would wait until I was ready and I wanted to do it but I didn't know if I was ready. In the end I did do it and I'm very glad I did. Me and him are still together, 2 years later.
You're the only one who knows if you're ready or not. Do you have condoms? Do you know what to do if one breaks? Do you know when you're hoping to do it? Do you know where you're going to do it? Those are the main questions you need to answer. If you don't know the answer to those, don't do it. Make sure you know exactly what you and your boyfriend are doing.
I doubt your boyfriend won't find you attractive, he obviously thinks your attractive with clothes on so I'm pretty sure he'd love to see you without clothes on so don't worry about not being sexually attracted.
But honestly, because you've written on a website, I dont think you're ready. If you were, you wouldn't be asking us. But at the end of the day, it's up to you. You're the one who has to do it.
Good luck x
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reader, Azula  +, writes (9 July 2009):
 I must say don't go. You still have so many worries and those worries might be regrets. Don't think that you are not attractive or so of those things because a guy would not ask you to have sex if your not attractive.Second there's a fear of you of breaking up. Basing at your age. Dear your relationship might go a year but will not last long. If you want to have your first sex with the man on the rest of your life, marry first and 10 months is not a test.make it a year or two then that man is really serious.As you have said he is willing to wait. Why not give it a try more.All I can suggest is that find things together that would send your minds off to sex. Dear at 13-15 love is not all about sex.Just enjoy the company of each other first.
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reader, athenas +, writes (9 July 2009):
Hey there!!! yup ur alittle to young for that i think u should wait and since he doesnt mind waiting he should wait too. Theyre can be a problem alittle bit worst rather than looking or smelling bad and that might be if u guys do decide on taking that step since ur too young ur body still isnt mature enough to do that i mean physically from the outside u may looked well developed but ur still going through puberty n all that, so what might happen is dat when u guys r actually having intercourse obviously hes going to rip a tissue like all of us if ur not lucky your gona keep bleeding wich is not normal and ur going to start having blood cloughts ur gona loose allot of blood ur gona feel dizzy and u can even faint ur gona have to call emergency n ur parents r gona find out ur not a virgen n ur guy might get in trouble how do i know this? it happened to me when i was 15 yrs old u may look like ur ready but u may not b ready yet. Best advice is to wait, everything comes naturally u dont need to rush things n try not to tease ur bf cause if u tease him n dont give him none hes gona pressure u to do it cause ur causing him to get like that. Well good luck!!!
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (9 July 2009):
 well first off you just do it when you feel its right and technically you're underage so are breaking the law you're 13-15 you are to be 16 to be legal age to do this sort of stuff.
if you want to wait until you're more comfortable with yourself then do so i mean you said he's willing to wait so he can wait longer if he's true he'll wait for you if he's not he's just another lame guy who just wants sex from girls.
sex shouldn't just be fun it should be about love a special bond people share together it's not just sex as most people think so and guys it's about you and your partner connecting with eachother physically and through eachothers bodies.
if you're not happy with yourself and afraid that when you guys split he'll spread rumours then i think in some ways you've already made your mind up the fact you're afraid he'll be that petty which he may do because he's that young and all young boys like to say mean things to hurt girls and they know how too.
just be careful and if you do decide to do it take PRECAUTIONS!! it is vital as you or him could get diseases or if he has them spread them.
you can never be too careful!
hope this helps
x ilovebowsandcherries x :)
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