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anonymous
writes:What can you do when you have the desire for sex, but lack the lube to make it enjoyable? This is a recent problem for me and it's freaking me out. I have NEVER had a problem getting wet during foreplay. My b/f is great in bed and really takes the time to make sure I'm satisfied but no matter what he does, nothing works. We've had to start using lubricant over the past few months and I hate it! Mentally I'm ready for sex anytime he wants it and usually my body isn't far behind, but all of a sudden I can't seem to get my body to cooperate. Lubricant is fine to a point, but when he enters me, it's still kinda dry and tight and uncomfortable for both of us. What's happening??? I love my b/f and still find him sexually exciting but it's like my fluids are disappearing!!! I can't stand it. I always thought this only happened when you lost interest in someone, or didn't find them attractive. What's going on???
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut don't men get kind of disappointed when they can't make their chick wet? (Kind of like erectile dysfunction messes with our heads and everyone tells us it's not our fault -- it's his) I sense my b/f is worried that I'm not into him anymore. So buying lube and using lube isn't the problem. Been there, doing that. Just worried that it's a turn off for men when you have to be "supplemented".
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reader, old-spinstah  +, writes (4 December 2009):
Vaginal dryness is something that happens to more mature women but at 30 - 35 you're a bit young for menopause. Early menopause is rare but does happen so if you have been having other symptoms such as infrequent periods and hot flushes it may be worth going to the doctor and having a blood test.
Certain types of hormonal contraception can also cause fewer vaginal secretions so this might be something to look into if you've just changed your method of contraception.
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reader, bitch  +, writes (4 December 2009):
As women get older they have less natural lubrication and all you need to do is buy some and apply it prior to sex. It is that simple really. Have fun!!!!
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reader, 25aa  +, writes (4 December 2009):
Not to worry, just use lube/lubricant. There are heaps to choose from so find one you like at the supermarket or chemist.
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reader, DiamondGirlx +, writes (4 December 2009):
 see a doctor ther may be a reason for this xx
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