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36-40,
*nastasiya
writes:I dating this guy for more then one year and now I decided to end it because its a dead end, I found out Im pregnant. He says he wants me to do an abortion, knowing the risks of abortions I wanted to keep it, but since we found out he's been treating me worse and now I guess I have no choice but to get an abortion. I asked him many times lets work on our relationship but hes just so unpatient,he talks to me with very offensive language... I dont have any support from my family, and my friends say they hate my bf I really dont know what to do!
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reader, TheAgonyAunt  +, writes (26 June 2009):
 Hm.. its a tough one.
You have to think whether you'd be willing to let him in your life if you do keep it, to see the child if this is what he would want to do. If you have no means of support then I think it would be a bad idea to have a child when you have not got much support.
Also, are you emotionally ready to have a baby and do you think you can cope with one?
I think you should ask yourself these questions and you should know what you should do.
Thanks hope this helps
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (26 June 2009):
 I don't know what you should do either, because for every situation like this there is always more to it. Not knowing every circumstance of yours, I can't tell you which decision you should make but I do want to let you know that you should never let a guy tell you what to do with your body. Dear, if you don't want an abortion then don't get one. If you feel you can't support the baby but you still don't like the risks of abortion then give it up for adoption.. There are so many great parents out there who can't conceive and would kill for the opportunity to take good care of your child.
If you want this baby then keep it. He doesn't have to be there for the child but he will certainly have to pay child support, unless he wants to break the law in which case you can get a (free) assigned lawyer by your city and take him to court.
You've got some big decisions to make and not a huge timeframe to work with. If you need any more info or just a friend to talk to then mail me here, alright?
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