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writes:I am 15 and I'm pregnant with my boyfriend that is four years older than me i need help i don't want him to go to jail i live in florida he wants to be there for me and the baby and he plans to marry me i love him to death is there anything i can do? My parents always pressure me and they always treat me like crap and wen i was in need he was there to love me and i lost my virginity now I'm 5 weeks pregnant. HELP ME PLEASE
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (4 July 2009):
 I think you were very foolish to get into this position in the first place. He is old enough to know about precautions and I am sure youwere not that naive. You can have a relationship and sex WITHOUT becoming pregnant.
If he loves you he should do the right thing and provide for you and your baby. If your parents see this they will probably accept him.
Do not get into this situation again until you can provide for yourself. He may well leave you - what will you do then.
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reader, rcn +, writes (4 July 2009):
 I would recommend talking to your parents. It's a difficult situation, but we all face difficult times, and have to overcome them as well. Best of luck to you.
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (4 July 2009):
 You are in a tough situation and unfortunately I don't know your parents and therefore have no way to know how your parents feel about you in general. Normally I would tell one of my patients to sit down and talk with the parents at length about the problem and they should have the desire to help you with whatever it takes.
Your age is going to cause lots of things to have to be considered here and you are probably going to need help on different levels. For this reason I have done some research on the web for you and found a website that should be able to get you the help you need. Give it a try. I hope things work out well for you. Doc
http://forums.teenhelp.org/mainsite.php
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reader, laura585 +, writes (4 July 2009):
Well I dont know about Florida laws but- yes, its statutory rape and he would go to prison IF someone reports it. If your parents hate this guy it is a very real possibility they will press charges. Talk with your parents because as long as you are under the age of 18 they are in charge, you may have had problems with them in the past but they love you and want whats best for you- even if you cant see it now. This guy could be bad news anyway- sometimes love blinds us to things like this. No matter what happens stay strong, and do whats best for the baby. Raising a child is a lot of work all the time, and you are still a child yourself. There are many many couples who cant have kids and would be able to give this baby a great future. Whatever choice you make, make sure it will give this child the best possible life. That baby is priority number 1 now. Be strong, you are in my prayers tonight hun.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (4 July 2009):
 am so sorry you're all upset like this. in my country (england) it's different, and i don't think he would get into trouble. it won't help anything in this situation and he wants to do the right thing by you. i think you should first contact any group that helps with teen pregnancy in the US.
i lookd on google for you and found this one:
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/
it has to be pro-life because if you talk to one of these organisations that advertises 'pregnancy advice' it is usually just 'abortion advice'. and you don't want or need that. don't even think about that. you both want the baby, so just work out now how to re-arrange your lives around that, and you will be great parents.
don't worry - i think it will be fine. even if yr boyfriend had to go to court, it is totally possible in this situation that he would get a suspended sentence - there is, i am sure, nothing to worry about.
: ) nx
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reader, FreeAdvice +, writes (4 July 2009):
 You really should talk to your parents they are the only one's who can help you because they are still your guardians until you are 18. Most girls are afraid to talk to their parents but it's their job to be there for you. If you plan on keeping this baby then you are going to need someone to be there for you.
Hope you find your answer.
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