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writes:i'm 16 and in my second year of high school. ok so i'm not that girly, but i want to become more girly. i always wear a black shirt and blue skinny jeans. my shoes are black converse and i wear lots of black eyeliner and my hair is covering one of my eyes. all my friends say i look like a goth/emo. theres this guy i liked for a awhile, but he only sees me as a friend. i want to be more girly to get his attention and for me cause i'm sick of being not girly. can some one please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2010): Well, I think you shouldn't change. It reminds me of when I was in middle school. I really liked this guy, but he liked girly girls. And my style is just like yours. So I learned a lesson, if a guy doesn't like you for who you are, don't worry I beat there is a lot of other guys in the world that like you. I think guys should like you for who you are, not for how you dress! If you feel conferable about yourself, then forget about him (if he doesn't like you). AND ENJOY LIVE !!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): you dont hav to wear skirts that and high heels or make up and stuff just wear more light colors like blue purple pink green and other fix ur hair in differentstyles
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (19 October 2009):
 Go to a hairstylist and have her change your hairstyle. If you look through some of the books there, you'll find a nice hairstyle that looks flattering on you, maybe lighten your hair, or add highlights to look less "goth" and more girlie. Then buy a few fashion magazines and look through the clothing styles. Girlie girls wear pastels, and cute little heels with their jeans. They occasionally wear a skirt and show a little leg. Then there's the make-up; go with lighter colors, ditch the darkeye shadow and the overly thick eye liner. Fashion magagines will also help you see a different you with just a few tricks in your make-up application. I hope it helps you re-invent yourself, something we girls are very good at doing! Have fun.
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (19 October 2009):
 If you like your current look, and your clothes reflect you well, don't betray who you really are just to get a guy's attention. It won't make you feel any better about yourself. But if your current look is not really your favorite but you just don't know what to do in order to gracefully change it, that would be different. But it shouldn't be that big of a deal to change it. One thing I will say though is that a lot of fashion that is considered girly a lot of times is not built for comfort. For example, the painful high heels and the super tight jeans that make you feel like you're on the stomach crunch machine every time you try to sit down in a chair. But going from all black to just about anything at all different will increase your girliness quotient exponentially. Even something as simple as wearing a more feminine color shirt like a pastel or pink.
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reader, sbprincess  +, writes (18 October 2009):
Hi there, this is my first attempt at advice, i felt i had to write because i remember feling how you did almost 16 years ago..the thing is, if a guy like you, he likes you for being YOU..not a "girly" version of you..just you..clothes and appearance are just the surface, any guy worth being with will want to be with the girl (which you are) and hang out with someone whom he feels comfortable with..there are certain occasions which require a more feminine attire/behaviour but to me your personal style sounds great, as long as you are comfortable in what you wear others will be comfortable to be with you. A lesson i learnt a bit late in life was never to change styles/behaviour/dress sense to impress the opposite sex, if he likes you he will like you as you are.. I hope you find this helpful.X
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (18 October 2009):
 Eheh, if a guy sees you as only a friend, it has nothing to do with you appearing girly. Unless you look like a man in drag, he knows you are a girl. You have just given him the idea that you don't see HIM as a guy.
Touch him. Make it clear to him that you think of him as a male and not just as a friend.
Trying to appear to be girly, when you are not won't do anything. After all, you are his friend as you are now. Do you want him to start liking you for acting as someone else.
What kind of girls does he like? REALLY like as a in hang out with them... not just undress them with his eyes. Oh wait, you know what kind of girl he likes to hang out with... it is you.
Show him that you are intrested in taking things further. Physical touch works wonders. Trust a guy on this.
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reader, xAx +, writes (18 October 2009):
 1.Stop wearing so much eye liner. Use only some on the bottom of your eye.2. Wear Mascara - it will attract him to your eyes3. Take your hair out of your eyes - Have a fringe that doesn't go lower than your forehead.Boys don't tend to focus much on what you are wearing, only on if it makes you look good. So, don't throw away your black skinnies, just because they're black! Go shopping, doesn't have to be expensive clothes, and buy different colour tops. Buy something that would match/bring out your eye colour e.g if you had blue eyes, buy a blue top. Try to keep your individuality, as boys like uniqueness in girls. If you bought a simple tank top, just match it up with a nice necklace/ear rings/ bracelets etc.Boys like girls who are confident in themselves, girls that don't fake it just to fit in. Be true to yourself and you'll soon have that boy!Hope this helps! X
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reader, Justified +, writes (18 October 2009):
 If you want to be girly the best thing I can say is wear tight clothes and the skinny jeans are fine. Find some boot cut jeans they go great with anything. They have a lot of dark clothing that are sexy. Eyeliner is great buy some lip gloss instead of lipstick. I think hair covering one of your eyes is sexy. But overall if the guy does not like you for who you are then he is not worth it. Make sure you feel comfortable in your own skin, clothes etc.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 October 2009):
From what you've said, I think you just need to appear in lighter clothes. If you're not comfortable in really light clothes, try blue tops or something. More than anything, guys are attracted to women who are confident with themselves and happy. Smile and love yourself.
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