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He uses porn for sex instead of me!

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Question - (18 October 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 18 October 2009)
A female South Africa age 51-59, anonymous writes:

Since me and my partner have been going through a bit of a rough patch for the past few weeks, we haven't been having sex. I recently found some porn websites on his phone...(I was borrowing his phone, as mine broke.) and he had googled up 'hot naked women'.

I'm very upset about this cause I thought that if he's wanking, the longer he won't want to have sex with me. I confronted him and he said he looked at it cause we weren't really having sex lately. Why can't he just want to sort out the relationship, instead of wanking?

Sometimes I have to go abroad to work and he watches it whilst I'm away, fine, I don't have a problem with that what so ever...but it's just the fact that he wants to see other naked women! why? does he feel that he wants them or wants to have sex with them? or is it just to get off on it?

He explained that there's no emotion involved and it's quick and easy..as soon as it's finished, he completely loses interest and turns it off.

I feel betrayed cause it was not so much the fact that he was watching sex, but was perving over a woman's naked body..

Should I just feel the fear and do it anyway and watch porn with him? that way i'm involved....

Help!

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A male reader, pyan Australia +, writes (18 October 2009):

yes look at it with him it will open up communication between you both may even lead to sex

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A male reader, LazyGuy Netherlands +, writes (18 October 2009):

LazyGuy agony auntWhy ain't you two having sex recently? Seems there is more going on.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (18 October 2009):

I think you need to talk to him about your relationship and try to fix what's going wrong. I'm afraid to say that 99% of men look at porn for the reasons he said. It's quick and easy. He does love you, so don't feel threatened. Talk to him and tell him you're unhappy about him looking at it when you're in the house. Hopefully, he'll listen to you and understand.

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