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writes:Ive liked men since i was 13 (now16) and i now have a really bad crush! I cant stop thinking about him! I just need some advice on how to go about asking him on a date( im still in the closet).
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reader, AvgGuy1  +, writes (14 July 2011):
 First... You have to be absolutely SURE that he too is gay or bi. Otherwise, when you DO ask him... you'll be outting yourself. Not something you want to do if you're not ready to do so. If you are unsure of his orientation then you need to become friends first... or talk to/know one of his friends whom you can find that out from.
If you're already sure he's gay/bi, then you need to find out what interests him... and then ask him to go out to something that interests him.
If he's into sports, ask if he wants to hang out with you at some sporting event. If he's into art or music ask him if he'd like to go to a concert or check out the latest exhibit at the museum. Movies are also good.
If he is out, and you are not then make sure you tell him that you're not currently comfortable with the whole 'out' thing... but that you're trying to get the guts up to come out, so you hope he doesn't mind keeping your relationship discreet for the time being. If he is also not out, then you can assure him that you'll keep everything discreet for the time being.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 July 2011):
 Before going on a date with someone would it not make you happier if you came out of the closet? Yes it might shock some people but if they love you they will accept you for who you are and it will take a huge weight of your shoulders and you can be true to yourself and start living your life being the real you. I know it is a big deal to tell people that you are gay but tell those closest to you.
As for this guy you have a crush on, do you think that he is gay? If so well then tell him you are and see how he reacts. If he seems OK with it well then just ask him straight out would he like to go out sometime.
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reader, AgonyAuntiee93 +, writes (14 July 2011):
How old is he?
Maybe you should go up to him and ask if he wants to go for a drink? Like coke obviously. You dont need to have sex or kiss, or even hug if you dont want to!
Good luck!
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