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anonymous
writes:This is really sick and I have never ever told anyone of this as I feel too ashamed. I hope no one would judge me here.I am totally in love with my husband and we have been together for a long time-100% happy! However when I am having sex at the point of climaxing sometimes things pop into my head - like really sick stuff, like me being in a shameful position eg being treated like a sex slave or being caught in the act by someone close to me-close friend, family etc, being degraded sexually, being in a porn being gang banged...sick stuff like that.It makes me feel really disgusted but I can not help it-I mean it doesnt happen all the time but just sometimes and at that moment it turns me on.I am NOT into S and M or humiliation anything like that. I did not have a messed up upbringing nor been abused etc. I feel confused why this happens to me - and I have been too ashamed to ever tell anyone about it. It is really abnormal and I feel guilty but I can not seem to have any control at that moment when it just pops in my head!
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (11 July 2007):
 hey it's completly fine what you are having most of time. it's just something you are fanistising about. but you know it's something you will never do. don't put yourself down as it's normal and sometimes people like to have sex where they might get caught. it spicies up the sex so go for it girl. you are not weird and you have nothing to be ashamed of ok xxx
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reader, shyboots  +, writes (11 July 2007):
I think 99% of the fantasies that people have are things they would NEVER want to do in reality, kinda like watching a thriller or murder mystery, wouldnt want to be involved in that either in real life! The important thing I think is not to let them take over but remember it is your husband you are making love with...dont feel guilty about it but ackowledge it for what it is...make belief.
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Hi ther babes,
You go for it girl, these are your fantasies and everyone has them whether they are wild or mild, there is nothing wrong with you at all darling, some couples tell each other their fantasies and some keep them to themselves...
So don't you dare feel bad about it, if you want to keep these thoughts to yourself then you hold on to them they are yours and there is nothing wrong with that...
All the best darling
Love Donna
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reader, love-him +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Hey babe, there is no way of stopping things like that coming into your head, but maybe the way you are trying to fight it off, saying it is sick, maybe that is affecting you, which could be the reason why it always comes into your head when you reach your climax.. There is no reason why anyone else, close to you should find out, unless you are willing to tell them, so just try and enjoy yourself, and look into your husbands eyes which would maybe stop you having the thaughts? I hope i helped, good luck. Mail me if you would like to talk x x
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