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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:So im meeting my ex of 3 years at the weekend for a bite to eat. I havent seen her for nearly 3 months, and only communicated a couple of times through text. It was kind of a mutual agreement to meet up for as she puts it "a casual catch up". I dont know how to approach it, whether I should even put myself through it, and cant figure out the point of the whole thing... she broke up with me and seems to be enjoying herself. I am enjoying myself too, but do miss her, and lately it seems to be a little worse, getting me down etc.Any opinions or advice would be welcomed.. thanks
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reader, uganut86  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 Take it from someone who knows. I met my ex after 6 months of hardly talking and we are talking about getting back together. It can either be a good thing if you both still have fellings for each other. But just see how she acts before you do anything
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reader, :):):) +, writes (9 May 2008):
She may just miss you and want to see how you are doing.
What exactly are you hoping to gain from this meeting? A friend or a girlfriend?
If you still have feelings, go along and see how the mood is between you. Even if it becomes clear she just wants to be friends- at least you'll know for sure.
If you arent interested in dating her again then you can either go to make this clear or not go and be left wondering where you both stand.
Don't let her mess you about, be firm and clear in what your intentions are.
I met an ex after several months once and we got back together and it was the greatest decision Ive made.
Just be sure you're ready for this.
xxx
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female
reader, Isabella1974  +, writes (9 May 2008):
 Hi there, when she says "a casual catch up" it could be just her way of keeping it cool and not to pressurised, she may be nervous.
I dont think it will do an harm to meet up with her, just to see what she has to say and see how you both feel, it sounds to me that you both miss each other and just want to meet to see if there is any feelings left.
If it was me and i wanted to meet a guy that i had been with before, my reasons would be that i miss him and see if i could get back, i am not saying that this is why she wants to meet, please dont get your hopes up sweety, its just me, just sit down and chat and see where this is going.
If nothing comes of this and you feel you are not up to keeping in contact with this girl and you are finding it to hard, then it would be easier for you in the long term to break contact and for you to move on with your life as it is getting you down quite alot.
When you meet her, just try to remain calm, please dont expect to much as it could be just a chat.
I hope this helps a little.
Take care
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): Do you want to get back with her?
No - Dont go
Yes - Go and get a feeling for what realy gives, suggest getting back together.
Unsure- This is not an attractive trait in a man.
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