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*gonyAuntiee93
writes:Hello Cupids (:I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4years and 8months, when he recently proposed to me. I said yes, and i was all happy and, as you would be, excited! Until the other night. He had been out to the pub for a few drinks and a good time with his friends. When he came in he got ready for bed. I was already in bed, reading a magazine. He got in and started cuddling up to me. I put away my mag and cuddled him back. I told him that i loved him. He stayed silent for a few seconds then groped me. He whispered in my ear 'im marrying you for your great sex' He has never, ever said anything like that in the whole 4 years we have been together! He isnt anything like that! I was shocked and i asked him what he was on about but he was asleep. I went to sleep, thinking that it was just because he had had a bit to drink.The next morning, i asked if he meant it. He asked what i meant! I told him and he smiled! Now i dont know what to do.Does he love me? Was it just because he had had a drink? Please cupids, help me! Reply to this Question
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reader, AgonyAuntiee93 +, writes (11 February 2011):
AgonyAuntiee93 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, im not over-reacting!
I was alarmed but thank you for the help(: x
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reader, Abass Abassi  +, writes (10 February 2011):
the important thing in your whole statement is here, that when on the other day you told him, he just smiled, and didn't respon. if he meant something else he would say everything. But here it means he took it very light, and the reason is that he really didn't mean whatever else you inferred. remember one thing, no one, especially a male, will never ever marry a lady for sex only. Unless he has a deep connectivity he will never marry.Except some greedy people, who marry a person for wealth and money and all. If wealth, money is not an influencing factor, then his marriage to you is surely love connectivity, sex is inclusive of love. That means sex is a segment and sub part of love, but love is not sub-part of sex. take it easy and enjoy your life. it is very normal statement he told you.best luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): LOL, I agree! He allowed his humorous side to shine with a little 'dutch courage'. Don't be alarmed.
IMO, this guy loves you and wants to be with you. No one is likely to marry a woman because the sex is hot... half the time it's the FIRST thing to go when the ring goes on the finger!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): he was being silly, but he does love your sex together. Nothing wrong with that...
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 I think he allowed a little of his male humor to come out after a few drinks. Don't be alarmed. Your Prince Charming is not always going to be "charming" and he's not always going to say or do all the perfectly romantic things we girls tend to dream up. I do think he loves you. Men don't marry for sex. They can get that without the wedding. Just remember when he says stupid, insensitive "guy" things, he's just being a guy. And most of them are ever as politcally correct as we'd like them to be. The good news is, he thinks your hot in bed. Enjoy the compliment!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 I think you are over reacting here. Off course he loves you he wouldnt be marrying you if he didnt. Am pretty sure he was only joking while maybe even trying to give you a compliment at the same time. Men think in strange ways sometimes. Dont worry he does love you so put it to the back of your mind and treat it as the way he meant it a light hearted joke. Good luck and all the best with the wedding i hope you have a happy future together.
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