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writes:been married for 3 and a half yrs my husband dont even know i am in the room he dont share things with me never has he is lying to me about stupid stuff and saying i would have flipped out if he told me the truth this is not true ! no sex in a yr now he works all the time has text on his phone he's 45 yrs old and gets unapropriate stuff from the gurls at work on his cell I askled him to have them stop cause it could be used against him ... he got mad at me, its not right when i ask him to please stop doing something that upsets me he does it more why ????? I talk to him and he says no matter if he heard me or not, hu what did you say ?? I blew up at him and it was not pretty he says he loves me but he shows me diffrent !! I do not love him he has killed everything we ever had !!! he got me 2 roses last valentines day the day after and while he was putting them in a vase all the petals fell off its like this on every special day our wedding night he never even tryed to touch me if i wanted sex i had to be the one to start it he never would, it gets kinda old after a while !!!! i have moved out of the bedroom now he says oh dont do that all words he didnt get upset or anything !!! i am just having trouble with him understanding its over and i want a divorce and he says he will not leave our home we dont have kids, thank god !! he has a house in the city and he got before we were married and we got our home we live in now together so he can go live in the other house but he says no he wont he will burn this place down first kinda scary !!! so wth should i do ?????? he has no empithy at all!!!!
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 If you can afford it, you should be the one to move out and get your own apartment. You don't even have to give him the address, especally if he's threatening to burn down a house just so you can't have it. Kind of psycho if you ask me. The only way he's going to know you're serious is if you move out, and file for divorce. You can always open a P.O. Box for correspondance on the divorce and if he doesn't know where you live, he can't do weird things or stalk you. In the divorce you can arrange to have one of the houses. If he burns it down, just make sure you have good insurance and a fire alarm! I doubt he really will. He could go to jail. Make sure you get everything you're entitled to so you can start your life over. Good luck.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 I think the best thing you can do is get legal advice. Ok so he is not obliged to move out of the home. Therefore the only other option would be for you to look for rented accomodation at the moment while you file for divorce and then the house will have to be sold and the money split between you. It sounds to me like this is the only option for you as he is not going to let you go easy by the sounds of it and if you walk out it will make things less complicated in the long run.
I am really sorry to hear that your marriage turned out to be such a disappointment and i hope that you have a happy and stress free future without this man causing you any more hurt or pain. goodluck.
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