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writes:ok i need advise, please don't judge me:i've been in a relationship for almost 2years,we were close friends and i loved him and i still love him, i just think i'm not in love with him.I'm full of guilt because i have been dating as if i was single, it's like a drug for me, i can't stop. I haven't slept with anyone but kissed but 2 men, only one i have been attracted to. I will date any guy, even if i'm not attracted to them. I've no idea what's wrong with me. I feel so nasty and wrong and it's been hours since my last date.I care for him, i don't want to be with him, but i feel conneted to him in a way i can't let go. I need help!Telling him would just hurt him and i know this, that is why i haven't told him yet.The thing is i hurt when he hurts and no matter what i always think about him, even when we fight i can't wait to get back with him.So do i just want attention and i can stop, i just feel alive with these other guys, i guess because everything is good at first.What is wrong with me? I might be in love, but i feel the need to cheat to heal my pain through all the fighting and i'm throwing away a 2 year good relationship with a guy who loves me and would do anything for me.The other thing is i thnk it might be the long distance getting to me. It's been hard these last few months on us both, but i just don't get why i would become this low.Could i be losing it or am i really not in love?
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reader, Gena Bullock  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 You are obviously not ready for a lasting relationship. Break it off and sew your wild oats for a while. If it was meant to be, and he accepts, so get back with him and make it last.(monogomously)
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reader, Cosy +, writes (13 March 2008):
you sound like I did at the end of last year,
in hindsight, communication is what I needed and talking to him, just generally.. about anything will help.
Sometime things just break down on their own, and sometimes we make it so..just try to ensure that you are not adding to the issue. Its hard but it will be harder if you two break up.
i ended up breaking up with my boyfriend and then he found out about what I had done, I do not recommend letting this happen to you.
If you want to talk, msg me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): Hi Hunny
your lonely and want your man with you, You dont want to be like this or you wouldnt question it, You want attention and it makes you unhappy because your not getting the attention from the man you want so anyone will do for awhile, You need your self esteem lifted for one and im also sending you a link on depression...As I feel this is really getting you down. Once you are stronger within yourself and gain your self back you will feel better sweetheart...And able to cope stronger.
http://www.selfesteem4women.com/index.php
http://www.bodyhealing.com/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=105&Itemid=28
Hunny I hope this helps message me if you want a chat TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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