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writes:I'm 14years old and have a really upsetting life, my dad and aunty have passed away within 4years and i just haven't gotten over that yet. I had to hold it in and be strong for my mum and little sister!! I'm letting it all out now!! I have a boyfriend he's very supportive, he's always there for me, but the thing is he smokes weed. He knows i hate it but he still does it. I have been bullied before, but my boyfriend sorts them out for me. Lately i have been crying every night, i don't know why and i just can't sleep, life is being hard on me at the moment. I just wish I could. The only reason i don't is because of my boyfriend, he's the only reason i wake up in the mornings. What should i do?? [MODERATOR: I've deleted a couple of lines, because this young girl has mentioned suicide tendencies.She could really do with our support to lift her mood!]
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): [first part of this answer not helpful]tell your bf everything you wrote in the question. i'm sure he'll help you more than anyone on here could, because he udnerstands you much more.
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reader, Gena Bullock  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 Granted, your boyfriend has issues, but he is there for you. Also, your mum and sister NEED you as you've been there for them and they are accustomed to that. You are on this earth for a reason, dear one. Do remember that. God has a big plan for you and HIS strength will be yours. Pray and your prayers will be answered. Seek God and he will be there for you. Do not give up. There are people who love you and care for you and want to help you right there at home. Ask for their help. May God's angels support you and protect you and help you through this moment of hard times. IT WILL GET BETTER. God bless, Gena
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): hello love,
I know its so hard right now but hurting yourself isn't the answer. Im 17 and when I was youger both my mum and dad pasted away, I was shattered but I know how you feel, you felt like you had to keep going and be strong for your family. But honey if you need someone to talk to tell your mum, and tell her its hard for you, your sad, and need to talk, your mum will listen, thats what mums love. About your boyfriend, tell him you don't like that he's smoking and it bothers you, ask him to please stop. I know you may feel obligated to stay with him because he's helped you threw hard times, but you must ask yourself, is he what I need right now? And if so work this out with him, if not don't be afraid. If you ever need to talk there are many many aunts and uncles on here who would care not to talk to you. =] Just remeber it will be okay, i know it hurts now, but you will make, just keep going, I promise things will get better. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): by all means there is more than one solution, u take the one that suits you the best.at 14 u dont need a boyfriend you should not burden yourself with someone elses addictions you have enough to deal with. your number one concern is your well being, you cannot change the death of one of your parents, what you can do is learn to live with the pain, is not easy but we do it.we never forget the loss, we we learn with each passing day, surround yourself with friends that love you and protect you. THAT WHICH DOESNOT KILL YOU WILL MAKE YOU STONGER.
someone whose been there.
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reader, honeychild4402  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 hunny, you'll pull through this! just stay strong babe, time is a healer xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): Right hunny im sending you some self help links, And whatever you do do not think suicide it is not worth it belive me, Ive been there and Ive lost 2 dear friends and life will get better with time as time is a good healer and your just so low at this moment you cant see away out sweetpea...You can message me and we can talk through all that is going on in your head and we can sort it out and you can beat this...You have lost someone very close not once but twice in a short period of time so the grieving prosses is kicking in and so is the depression...BELIVE ME HUNNY YOU ARE SO SPECIAL YOU DONT NEED TO THINK ALONG THOSE LINES YOU JUST NEED SUPPORT TO GET YOU THROUGH THIS DARK PERIOD IN YOUR LIFE!!!!YOUR PRECIOUS AND BEAUTIFULL AND VERY SPECIAL DONT EVER FORGET THAT OK!!!! A councellor would be a good idea sweetheart you need all the support you can get......
http://www.childbereavement.org.uk/for_bereaved_families/ways_of_grieving
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/depression.html
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/grief_loss.htm
Hunny there are a few links there please feel free to message me at anytime WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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