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writes:My ex is havin a party tonight and for some stupid reason Im upset that I havent been invited - even though we broke up a month ago. Everyone is goin, even my friends, and I cant be angry with them for goin as its not their business that me and him split up.But I just cant stop thinking about it and what other girls are gonna be there, while Im sat at home bored. Am I just bein immature about this? And how can I stop feeling left out and jealous x
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (14 October 2007):
 Hey sweetness,
Well I can't blame you for being a little ticked. I would be too - it's a little tacky to throw a party, invite ALL of your ex's friends and not your ex.
For that night, be the bigger person and don't even say anything about it. I suspect that your ex is trying to get on your nerves and get a reaction by purposely not inviting you (that's what it seems like)... don't let him get the best of you. Do something with your family that night, go rent a movie and get junk food and have a blast by yourself.
There is always the possibility your ex is trying to avoid any awkwardness and was trying to do you a favor by not inviting you...
Either way, it's a sucky situation. It's just one night - find something fun to do and forget about it.
Good luck, sweetness!
xxIndia
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (13 October 2007):
 i dont think you're overreacting. its only been a month since you split up and it is a bit of a kick in the teeth that he's not invited you. but maybe its just that he thought it would be awkward if he did invite you or that you would've said no.
i was gutted when i tried to email my ex on myspace recently (for something completely trivial and innocent) only to find out the buggar has blocked me! it might seem immature and trivial to people looking at it from the outside but its a rejection and it hurts so i know what you're feeling right now.
all i can suggest is be nice to yourself tonight. have a long hot bath, watch a movie (anything with Adam Sandler is highly recommended to lift a bad mood!) and pig out a little bit. dont torture yourself by wondering what girls are there with him - easy to say and hard to do, i know. but all you will do is upset yourself and you wont be able to change who's there so theres no point stressing about it.
brooke
xx
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reader, clickyclick +, writes (13 October 2007):
 Well it's natural to be jealous of not being invited, one of my friends had a sleepover and invited everyone but me and they had a really great time. Here's an idea; why don't you go out to the video shop rent a kewl Video or DVD buy some popcorn, maybe have a hot chocolate or sumthing, lay down on the sofa with a quilt and relax. It should help you feel a little bit better. Hope you feel better, Clickyclick
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (13 October 2007):
Yes, you are being overly sensitive about this one party. Find something else you like to do for this one evening. I'm sure all your friends will tell you the details of the party.
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