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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:i know him since childhood .. he is 5 yrs elder to me and I used to call him Anna (brother) .. thtz how any girl here calls a guy who is elder to her .. anyways .. after he finished schooling and left school in my 5th grade we hardly ever met or spoke to each other .. have met him once in my ninth grade .. my dad and his mom work together and through them we get to know what the other does .. all this was casual .. now we stay in two different countries .. im 22 and he is 27 .. both taurus (if it helps at all) .. i have been in a relationship for 4 yrs and he none .. right nw both single .. he came to India in Dec for his bro's wedding and was here for a month .. even here we stay in two diff states but we met twice in this one month .. and since the first time we met, we were in constant touch .. texting, calling etc .. i kinda started developing feelings for him .. liked him a lot since childhood .. once he left to US this continued and one day I told him how i feel about him .. but he told me he like me a lot, adores me and respects me lot and that would remain the same forever .. when i wanted to ask him the reason behind it, he said he didnt wanna continue the discussion and feel uncomfortable when he meets me next time .. and he doesnt want me to pull the strings till it breaks .. however, I felt he likes and jus has not realised it yet .. cos his actions spoke something diff when I met him and even in the chats we had .. after tht we didnt talk much and he says he doesnt call that often cos he z lil busy wid work (he joined a new company around the same day when told him abt my feelings) .. but now again we talk normally as if nothing happened .. but I still feel the same for him even stronger .. i dont wanna tell him coz I respect his feelings and dont wanna disturb him .. what I dont understand is if doesnt feel the same way why does he have to call me and talk to me .. he continues to care for me, he insists on solving my worries .. i have told him N number of times that he makes me smile n happy .. all these still continue .. recently when were talking he was online in facebook and asked me y I wear only studs in my ear and not hangings .. he also ponted out one pic in which im wearing hangings and said tht I look good in that pic .. N today in our conversation he said I have a nice smile .. I thought he was being sarcastic and said OOOH .. he said what OOh .. I said U were sarcastic so was I .. he said im not being sarcastic .. u really have a nice smile .. :) what I dont understand is why would he say all this .. does this mean something ?? or is this something usual for guys .. everday I wanna tell him how much I love him and wanna be with him .. but i jus dont say in fear of hurting his feelings and risking what I already have ..
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reader, sneha09 +, writes (15 March 2011):
 Its good to see that something is blooming but beware of your feelings, don't show it too much.Try to be normal as much as you can, you have already disclosed your feelings.It may be possible that he is equally interested and just taking his time, even its possible that he says so only because he adores you.So nothing is wrong with his words, wait for some more time till he express himself to you.Hope all will be well.
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reader, Weeks +, writes (15 March 2011):
 I think your friend likes you but may be afraid to take the next step as it may mean added responsibility and loss of freedom. While you seem to be fearing loss of a friend and hence not moving further.In India, our elders come to help and play cupid. Do you want to share your thoughts with one of your parents or a parent figure who could take this further? I do know of cases where girls in India have broken free shackles of tradition and found a match for themselves. No harm in trying.
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