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writes:Hi, im in love with a muslim girl and she loves me (non muslim) im worried in case her family dont agree with this relationship, even though they appear liberal and welcoming to people... im scared to ask her in case i offend her or cause doubts and i lose her - as i dont know if this aspect of our future has crossed her mind also :s i appreciate any advice
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reader, mohmilim  +, writes (18 August 2011):
Very easy and simple.Islam allows Muslim men to marry women with Muslim or a Christian onlyAnd for Muslim women only marry Muslim men.And give you and answer without thinking of any other idea. You to enter Islam. Converted to Islam and become Muslim. You can marry her simply.And I want to say a simple observation.: You Christians and other religions do not know the meaning of Islam very well. And all you hear about Islam from the filth is just a lie just to keep people away from him.Islam is a religion of tolerance. Respect for the religion of the small and large people. Islam is a religion of cooperation. Islam is a religion of equality between rich and poor between the white and black men and women. Islam is the religion of the worship of God alone, and faith in all of the Apostles (Jesus, Mohammed, Abraham, .....) and a lot too.And do not look for the Muslims and their attributes. Because most Muslims do not find in them the status of Islam. To learn more and read about Islam very well. And I know you will find a lot of beautiful things
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNevermind guys, she cheated on me last night so looks like my dream is over as i guess shes doesnt love me as much as she said :( x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think the major problem for this with me is i dont believe in religion of any form i accept others believing but i myself do not.
Im from england by the way :)
The fact i am not religious was something i told her one day when we first met and were friends and she couldnt careless.. its me who is worried about this whole conversion debarcle as i want to be with her but obviously dont want her to have family problems etc.
If i converted it would simply be because i love her and wish to be with her always and nothing more or less.. not because i want to follow the same religion as her. i have good morals instilled in me by choice and upbringing and she would be welcomed into my family with open arms and smiles which is kinda upsetting to me.. that i will likely be viewed with hostility over a religious difference!
please keep posting how your relationship goes also :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): Hanan- The Muslim girl who is in love with a non Muslim guy
I had to follow up on ur story.
I am not surprised she said that. When my boyfriend said he wanted to convert for me I told him no. Like just straight up. I told him that he can't convert for me, he has to convert because he loves the religion. He said hes going to see if he likes it or not.
Today he went to the masjid for the first time. He likes it.
He wanted to talk to the imam (kinda the priest of the mosque) but the imam wasnt there. He will be meeting the imam on Monday. Idk where ur from but I live in Michigan and its in a few days.
My bf said that he will accept Islam for me. And im not gonna stop him, but I want him to love and respect the religion.
However, I did tell him that the word "Muslim" means submitting to the will of God, and if u submit then u r a Muslim. We both agree on that. Nevertheless, my parents dont lol.
He will convert though, he doesnt care if its for me or not. He wants to do whatever it takes to be with me. And ii love him soooo much for that!
Talk to ur gf, and tell her that you'll learn to love and accept Islam. If u convert, u just have new beliefs, its not like anything changes in ur life.
Now, idk if ur like me, but I dont want my bf drinking or smoking or doing any haram things (I would guess uk what haram means, right?)
If u want to be with her, u will be willing to make these changes.
Its amazing to actually know someone is going through the same thing that I am going through right now.
It really lets me know that im not alone :)
Its a great feeling!
I will continue to follow up on ur story.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk so i spoke to her tonight, it didnt really shed any light on the situation.. she said she realises im not muslim and i was saying so are we a secret..she said nope.. everyone knows but my mum n dad. I tried to press more she basically said can we leave it for the future :( so i fear alot of hiccups on the horizon over this well see x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHEY! omg ive been hoping for someone with a story like yours! ye im willing to do as he has done.. its not a matter of religion for me just what has to be done to enable me to livemy life with girl i love.. which is what you think to by the sounds of it, my gf been away 2 weeks but im gonna chat to her about this asap you guys have given me confidence i needed to speak to her about it! wish you the best of look my friend its sounds like you will indeed have that happy ending! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): Hi, I am absolutely in the SAME position you are. EXCEPT im the Muslim girl. I am head over heels with the non Muslim guy and nothing can separate us! Ever!
He took the first step. He got to know my family, and he is still getting to know them. He loves me very much that he is willing to take up the religion. He may not believe it, but it makes my parents happy and he wants to be with me. Hes not all that too religious so taking up a new religion isnt something major or anything like that. Just naming himself something different.
I love him very much because he is willing to go through all of that for me.
Me and him are stronger than ever. He will come and ask for my hand at the end of March. He has not converted as of yet, but he will soon.
My advice, learn about Islam, and love it. U dont have to accept it. Just love it and appreciate it and respect it. Then u respect her family and her as well.
Once you do that, talk to some of her family members. My bf talked to my sister through her cell fone and my brother through facebook since he was not able to talk to them face to face. He is not making an attempt to be kool with my dad, and ask my dad for advice about Islam.
I suggest u do that same.
It'll make ur relationship with her parents very strong.
I can relate soooooooooo much to your situation, except that my parents r TOTALLY religious lol so its a bit harder.
GOOD LUCK! :)
And ii wish for you too the best!
Love like this is always the most true love!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionye im gonna try and relax and talk to her about it, in regards to hair nope not that im aware of ... mums from canada so i think theyre reasonably westernised but doesnt mean much in regards to religious/cultural beliefs and values.. well see :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni dont know how religious they are, i havent really touched on religion with her as im not religious myself, im a virgin and pretty shy guy and i will respect whatever she wants to do :)
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (5 February 2010):
 Glad my answer was helpful, and that you were able to talk with another Muslim girl.You do need, as you say, to have a frank talk with your gf.Hope it works out the way you want!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Denise, i spoke with a friend of mine who also happens to be a moroccan girl of similar age she told me she is a non practicing muslim and will date/marry whoever she wants... maybe my gf is in the same position :S... i think ill talk with her about this as soon as possible especially as you say they could just come to my country and remove her anyway!...thanks again guys :)
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (5 February 2010):
While there are exceptions, most Muslim parents disapprove of their daughters dating someone of another religion - if they are allowed to date at all, that is. Some families are more liberal about their children dating, it's true.
However, conservative, devout Muslims prefer to keep the sexes separate, They do work together, yes, but dating and forming relationships ESPECIALLY with a non-Muslim is frowned upon. As a matter of fact, did you know that a Muslim girl is actually forbidden by Islam to change her religion? If you wanted to marry her for instance, you would be expected to convert.
If she has not told her parents about you, and only plans to do so when she returns to the U.K. to study, they may well come over and force her to return to Morocco.
Perhaps you should seek out a Muslim clergyman - an Imam - and speak with him to learn what the expectations are. You need not tell him who she is........
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks, im 19 as is she. The parents dont know me and she has gone back to her home country of morocco and will return soon to study here, she wants me to live with her... and says she will tell her mother about me when she is here. that is when i first thought is this a problem if she has to keep it secret till she is away from them. They dont seem strict and we have never really touched on religion before. its just when i hear stories of being disowned etc. i couldnt live with myself :) x
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reader, lil ladyy +, writes (5 February 2010):
 well its got to come up sooner or later so you might as well ask now and then at least you know some muslim's don't mind but some are verry stricked do the parents know you 2 are toghter ?? if soo then they dont seem to mind but if not tread carefully x
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