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writes:I met this guy at a party and i just noticed him because he was so cute. while I was sitting, he came to meet me and gave me his number. We've started communicating and spent some time together but the thing is he's 35 and I am 18. I look more matured than my age and he looks much younger like in his late 20's. he's talking of settling down and so on, I really like him but is the age difference normal or right? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2007): I personally wouldn't date anyone of that age, but do what you want. Just to warn you I was engaged to a guy ten years older than me, (he was 34 and I was 24) and he would flirt with young girls and they would flirt back-they were 16 and 17. All he kept saying was they would be 18 soon! I thankfully dumped him, just remember who you are dealing with. Guys that can't get girls their own age have some serious issues.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): i am 18 and my boyfriend is 35, like you, i'm mature, and like him, he looks like he's in his 20's. it doesn't matter how old he is, if your happy, then go for it!! x
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reader, sweetheart1nonly +, writes (10 November 2007):
sweetheart1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot guys for your help, they were really indeed very helpful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): Oh yeah, she can go ahead. If the teenage girl wants to keep going after a grown man twice her age then she's just "mature."
And if she ever changes her mind & regrets it later, it'll just be his fault. He'll get criticized for "getting an adolescent girl into a relationship before she was really mature enough to handle it" or something like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007): Its a big age gap but if your really in to him there is no reason why it cant work. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): Hi guys thanks for your reply, I would also like to add that he hasnt been married before, he still looks so young at 35, not me in general though, we want to see where this relationship wouldn end.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (5 November 2007):
 I don't really think age gaps matter, after all age is only a number, the feelings a couple have for one another far supersede age. However i would do abit more checking up on this guy before you persue anything serious. When he was talking about setting down did he mean in general, or with you? Has he been married, or is he still married?. Does he have children?. Maybe go out with him a few times, find out what sort of guy he is, what he does, where he lives ect.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): Well, 17 years is quite a big age gap at your age, him being over twice your age, but think of it a little differently - when you're 50 he'll be 67 and the difference won't seem so big. There's no 'normal' here, everyone is different in what they look for in a partner.
If you're compatible in other ways there shouldn't be too much of a problem.
Phil
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reader, babewithbrains +, writes (5 November 2007):
 I don't think there is a problem at all, if you love him. You have to make sure that you are his first, or he might dump strange kids from his first wife on you if you get together.
Just think about it and follow your head, because your heart doesn't think (it pumps blood full of oxygen, how romantic is that?)
Good luck,
Heli
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