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writes:What should I do? I lived in a place down the South of England and I had my first ever boyfriend which means so much to me, but my dad got a new job and so we've moved way up to the North and now he's about 4 hours away from me. I miss him so much and I cry about him every night, literally, but I think I might never see him again or he might be seeing someone else, which just breaks my heart even thinking about it, so, what do I do? Should I leave my heart set on him or move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): I am 14 so I don't know if you will take what I have to say into consideration, but...
If you still love him which it seems you do, whatever you do, DO NOT lie to yourself or pretend you are over the guy when you are not. That will hurt more, trust me... Although if you feel you should try and make things work somehow, go for it. If things do not work out, try giving it a rest but do not automatically try to move on. It will hurt even more. I am still suffering a heartbreak after a pretty long time but it hurts less to know that I am not lieing to myself, pretending I am over the guy. I really think that you should do whatever your heart tells you to do as corny as that sounds, but it's true.
As much as it may hurt to hear, maybe things have changed for the better. Maybe you have more things going for you even if you can not see it happening now.
I really wish the best for you, good luck.
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reader, calamitysil +, writes (5 November 2007):
 How does your boyfriend feel about your move?
If he's equally upset, keep in touch by writing to each other, phoning,emailing. Nowadays it's so easy to keep in touch and distance is no longer an issue. 4 hours is no distance if you love each other and you can always make plans to meet up on weekends. Will it last? Well, fact is you will both be meeting new people and you may well drift apart as you're both so young. Yet, I've known people get back with their first loves in their 30's!! There's something so special about the first real love, we never really forget them :-)
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