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*abylove2010
writes:hi everyone i need to understand why my ex is still tracking my movements on the internet? we were together 7 years, its been over between us for 2 yrs but only stopped sexual contact 10 months ago. we have had zero contact except on 3 occasions via txt messages in regards to our son whom he has also stopped contact with, our child has ADHD and also has OCD. coping with our child on a daily basis is extremely difficult yet he no longer exist in his fathers life and has no intention of acknowledging him. my ex was my soulmate, we were great together when he wasnt having a bad day. when the days were bad they were horribly verbaly explosive we both did a lot of rotten things to score points against each other which was very immature and childish which also made us both become very insecure. eventualy i accepted that no matter how much we tried to make it work it wasnt going to happen as i wanted to share a life, a home, get married be a family and he wanted to share a life, be a family but not share a home or get married.he constantly accused me of cheating as i was chatting to men on chat sites, i told him due to him wanting to spend the entire evening at his own home without me i spoke to both male and female, he was whom i wanted to talk and spend my evenings with but he didnt want to be around or be with me, im now in a happy stable relationship with a man who wants a future and marriage so why wont my ex move on as i have done?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2012): You moved on your ex moved on and everyone is happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2012): If you have concrete proof he is tracking you on the internet then take it to the Police.
As for your son, his dads working so you can arrange child maintenance via CSA or a Solicitor.
If the contact between your son and ex has suddenly stopped then you can re-arrange that via the Solicitor too.You will feel better if its all dealt with via a 3rd party.
You need to take these steps instead of venting, do something positive.I would suggest counselling too,to let go of the anger. You have a new man,a new start.
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reader, babylove2010 +, writes (27 February 2012):
babylove2010 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have moved on i was with my ex husband for 20 years 5 of those we were married so dont think i have a problem moving on because i dont,being with my ex partner drained me mentaly and financialy i became depressed felt suicidal an this was having a severe impact on me as a mother an as person i knew i had to get out of this destructive relationship i was warned not to get involved with him by his family due to past events involving women they had witness but i never listened truly wished i had but finaly i was strong enough to walk away and i have never looked back and never will as for our son my other children and his step sister whom lives with my ex partner was doing all the arrangements for visiting this has stopped my ex lives 1 mile away,my son has rung his dad,left messages using my childrens mobiles and still he ignores him,he works and does not offer any kind of financial support and if im truly honest i dont want this man in my son`s life he`s suffered enough but thats for my son to decide not me
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reader, thinkb4  +, writes (25 February 2012):
He moved on from you but he is wrong to move on from his son too. You had contacted him about your son so why did it stop? Maybe he wants to resume contact, but not via you? You asked why he is tracking you then came back later saying you both know why. What are you exactly asking then? Is this about your son or about you and him? Your ex wants to forget you, so don`t contact him, let your son do it instead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2012): If you needed attention on-line then maybe that`s why he never wanted to go all the way with you. Maybe you went on-line instead of dealing with things appropriately so he went in search of monogamy?
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reader, FENNECH  +, writes (25 February 2012):
Did he leave a forwarding address or is there any way your young boy could make a phone call to him? He won`t want to hear from you, but may be happy to hear his young boys voice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2012): bunny boilers r us
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2012): You are not making any sense. You have a new romance so let go of the old one.
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reader, bama_mobile  +, writes (24 February 2012):
 I have been tracking you too, well on this forum I have. You have also participated in others questions. Both answers are about your ex. You also state he has blocked you on his facebook network, which is even more confusing because you believe he`s stalking or tracking you. You have not asked anything what really requires an answer, you are venting. You was with this guy for seven years and he cut you dead suddenly. You will know why. Besides mentioning your child, everything else is internet related. Whether or not you have made some bad decisions that have cost you, I don`t know. You ask why your ex wont move on, but you know he has, but I think you really wish he had`nt. You are not keeping it real. You are in a new relationship and the new guy will soon begin to notice you are nowhere near being out of love with your ex. Your ex is far from happy with you. Ten months prove that. You need to get through this with some good self help or from someone who`s trained to help you. There is nothing wrong with how you are feeling, it is understandable, but don`t deny it, it has to be dealt with head on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2012): Your ex may not have contacted his/your boy because it means he has to interact with you. He has moved on, there's no question of that.
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reader, babylove2010 +, writes (24 February 2012):
babylove2010 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answers everyone but he and i both know what he`s doing and the reason why and has for his son he may be 7yrs old but he is neither stupid or blind
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2012): Let's see. So before breaking up he'd accused you of cheating for talking to men on the internet. Is this a sugar coated version of being on dating sites looking for hot guys while he was out? Is this where the tracking you on the internet has its foundation? In all it does not make that much difference because your partnership ended a long time ago. If after a 10 month absence you are refusing to believe he hasnt moved on then I'm not sure what else will convince you. Where did you meet the guy who wants a future with you? Please dont say the internet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2012): sounds to me like he has moved on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2012): it sounds a bit zany this. what is making you believe it all when he's showing no interest in you and his children? the proof of the pudding is in the eating. i have never heard of anyone not approaching or making contact for almost a year because they cannot move on. he will have moved on and on and on so much that he's not only forgot you but he's also forgot his kids. he doesnt aknowledge any of you. maybe he will eventualy want to see his kids, time will tell. it's time you took the same route and accept it like you say you have, because its all nostalgia.
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reader, bama_mobile +, writes (24 February 2012):
Of course he has moved on. And so should you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2012): It`s been over for 2 years, 10 months since he last wanted sex (or did you stop that?), since then you say there`s been no contact. I would say he already has moved on, he moved on 10 months ago.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2012): How do you know he hasn't moved on? If he has no contact - not even with his son - then where's the stalking/tracking idea come from?
To be honest it sounds as though it's you who hasn't moved on.You sound like you need to unload alot of baggage with regards to your last relationship. Am surprised your in a new one and happy as you sound angry still.
Its your son who I feel for, its contact between him and his Dad that needs sorting, does he see his Dads side of the family even,his Gran etc? It would give you a break for a few hours.
Why did it stop?
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reader, delightful84 +, writes (23 February 2012):
All that you should be concerned about is your child and encouraging some form of contact. Zero contact to me looks like he probably has moved on. How is he got access to track you on the internet?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2012): You and him have had no contact. There has been no intamacy, and i assume no attempt from him to talk things through. Ten months is long enough say that in his mind you are well and truly over. You will have to say more about him tracking you on the internet and what he has done?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2012): If you have had no contact then it sounds very much like he HAS moved on. If you was chatting to men on the internet then of course he will think you are cheating. I am not entirely convinced that you have moved on yet. Just what is he doing to track your movements on the internet? How do you know this if there has been no discussion or contact?
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