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writes:Ok so have this amazing perfect boyfriend I have been dating off and on since 8th grade(we're in 10th now). I love him to death, we were even each others first kiss. currently this time our relationship has lasted since 2 days before thanksgiving last year and I have recently discovered a few minor issues i have.for starters I have serious PDA issuses. And it really bugs me cause I love my boyfriend and I know he loves me but nobody else ever sees us do any sort of lovey-dovey stuff so they either don't believe it or try try to force me to do stuff like in front of everyone. I don't know why I act like this, it's not like I don't want to or I don't try to, I just can't force myself to do it. I can't even bring myself to hold his hand on the walk to class and I feel really bad cause he is such a gentlemen and walks me to all my classes, I do hug him goodbye every time he drops me off at a class but that's he extent of my PDA-ness. I see all the other couples holding hands, kissing goodbye every single time before one of them leaves, and it makes me extremely jealous cause I really wish I could do that. I don't understand cause this is the only time I have any sort of issue. For the most part you can ask any of my friends and they will tell you I am the loudest, funniest, most obnoxious person thy know.But my attitude is not all that much of a girly girl do I cant do that kinda stuff :( but my boyfriend and I have talked about this before too, because we have a very open relationship and we tell each other everything. Other than this I have a another problem, like I mentioned before, my current boyfriend and I have been dating on and off since 8th grade and we were eahothers first kiss back in 8th grade but during the "off" times in our relationship there is always a couple weeks or months here or there were we date other people. Which is fine, it's to be expected, but for some reason it still buggs me when I know the fact that he dated these other girls and held their hands, kissed them, and made out with them, when te entire time I was off dating a few different guy but I never so much as gave them a little kiss. This bf is the ONLY guy I have EVER kissed. To make things more akward his last gf before me has the locker two down from me. Plus me and him recently started sharing a locker and he sees her every day. It makes me really insecure because I know she dumped him and at the time he still liked her a lot. And it really doesn't help that she is like INSANELY BEAUTIFUL and really really nice, so I can't even pretend to hate her. Sooooo theres my prolems I guess... I love love any advice you have for me on what to do with my PDA issuses or my bf's ex's issues. Thanks for reading all this I know it was a lot.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (23 February 2012):
 You want PDA to mark your territory to tell others to back off. I understand, but you have no cause to be insecure. If his ex were so perfect, why is she his ex? You should give more credit to yourself than you do.
As for PDA, you two hug, and I imagine in private you two are physical? Why can you not "bring yourself" to hold hands with him? Is it because you want him to be the initiator and be all over you to show his interest in you in public above all women?
You don't need PDA to gauge his love for you. You've been off and on since 8th grade. He's with you because he wants to be. Be satisfied with yourself and enjoy the relationship!
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