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writes:So i'm seventeen and my boyfriend and i had sex last night as a late valentines day present and now i'm freaking out. Well my boyfriend kind of pressured me into having sex at this camping trip and he didnt stop when i told him to stop being so rough on my body and he didnt. But i also have other problems like, i dont look at him now without flashing back to that trip and reminded of it. Also is it normal for my vagina to be bleeding? and is he going to want more and more out of me, or was this just a one time "i finally got what i wanted out of you?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): HI,
Everyone on here is right on here. You should be really upset at his behavior. Then you should do something about it. I don't want to tell you to leave him (which I think you should) but you will know what to do when the time comes.
good luck.
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reader, xlipgloss06x  +, writes (18 February 2009):
 what an idiot. im a virgin myself but ive been told some girls do bleed after the first time, so don't worry about that. i think you should finish the guy i would if i was you, it sounds like he doesnt care due to the fact he was 'rough' with you and didnt calm down with you. as esp the fact he pressured you into it. no guy should do that even if it is your boyfriend. hope this helps x
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (18 February 2009):
 Your boyfriend is a scumbag. No man should do that to you, he clearly is focused on his penis and not at all on you. Disrespectful douchebag!! As for your bleeding, it is fairly normal if he was that rough on you, but if it persists or if you feel like anything is unusual, get to the doctor. You don't want to take any chances.
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (18 February 2009):
 Sounds like you are a very intuitive young lady! It is disrespectful to pressure anyone into having sex, and to ignore the wishes of how it is done when it is being done. It is my opinion that he took advantage of you, and violated you. Have you spoken to him about any of this? Have you spoken to him at all since this event? You are very aware of what just happend to you, and I am confirming that the feelings of negetive energy you have toward him since the event are exactly what most people would feel in that same situation. You are smart for picking upon it and feeling the way you do. There are many other guys out there that would have more respect for you than that, however, if you feel strongly for this fellow, and do not wish to just drop him, you should let him know how you feel, and hopefully he understands and appologizes for the awful experience. Never ignore yur intuition.
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reader, saltwater +, writes (18 February 2009):
 loving arms is right...that guy sounds like right piece of work.
You should never have to be pressured into sex...and he has no right to be rough on you when you specifically told him not to be.
Were you using contraception? If you weren't, perhaps you should take a quick trip to the GP to make sure you have not contracted any infections.
You should leave this guy. He clearly has no respect for you or your body.
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reader, loving arms +, writes (18 February 2009):
this bloke sounds like a brute. Babe sometimes people do bleed the first time they have sex so the bleeding is probably ok. If it continuees seek medical advice. You realy need to finish with this guy. He does not care enough for you. If you were in a loving relationship your experience would not have been to horrible. Please don't sleep with anyone again until you are sure its what you want.
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