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writes:My boyfriend is freaking out cause he caught me making myself throw up (been doing this for a week). I mean I'm 18 so I'm legally adult and its not like I'm killing myself. But he nags at me because "hurting" myself and he doesn't want to be like his sister (she had bulimia for 2 years) He won't let me leave the house without him weighting first. He even told my parents that I have a "problem". I been trying to get into modeling and I might have a deal if I loss some weight to in their clothing (im 105). Should I drop the weight? Reply to this Question
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reader, dr.2.be  +, writes (7 July 2009):
 Please stop before it gets too much out of hand.
You DONT want to end up with a full blown eating disorder. You just started and its easier to stop if you haven't been doing it very long.
I was anorexic for 5 years. I still have it now but I am doing much better. It doesn't make you happy. When you keep losing weight enough is never enough and you get in the mindset that you are always fat. At my lowest weight of 70 pounds at 5'3, I still thought I was fat. But at the same time people are telling me I am rail thin and look like a skeleton, which I could not see. After recovering I am up to 105-110 pounds and I can still fit into my 'anorexic jeans' only they look much better on me as I can fill them out.(They were extremely baggy on me before.) I wear size 0-1. I look much better and feel much better. Plus I get normal periods and thats good cause you don't want to lose bone mass. 105 pounds is fine. You don't need to get any thinner. You want to stay healthy so you can live a good and happy life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): It takes some intelligence to be a successful model, not just good looks. Intelligent people dont make themselves throw up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): wow im 15 and 109 pounds and still a 00. dont be belemic itll make you fatter when you finally have o eat. or srarve yourself and die.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): If none of the awful, body wrecking side effects of what you're doing which have been described by everyone so far get you to stop this, then take it from a nutritional scientist - if you don't give your body enough food to survive, your metabolism will change and your body will start trying to store as much fat as it possibly can. The only way to maintain a healthy low weight is to eat smaller healthy meals 5 times a day and NOT to throw them up!!!
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (7 July 2009):
 I hope you've enjoyed the attention you got here, because I can't see this question being asked for any other reason.
So what's 0? Zero is nothing right? So a size zero means you're literally nothing.
I went into a store and saw jeans that were 00 (double zero) and I thought to myself.. who wants to be -1 person? I think you're being rediculous.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): Seriously, are you really asking this? Of course you're boyfriend is freaking out. You have an eating disorder now which is the symptom of an underlying mental illness. You say you way only 105 and you think you are to fat?? Are you 3 foot tall? My guess wold be that at that weight you are probably already too thin looking for your height. And be happy that you have a boyfriend that cares and would rather have a healthy, happy you as you are. Rather than a super skinny model. He doesn't want to see you hurt yourself. You can cause unrepairable damage to your esophagus and your stomach lining. Women have died from internal bleeding caused by the ulcers that the stomach acid creates when they throw up daily. Either stop this self destructive behavior now, or get help if you are unable to stop it alone.
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reader, rcn +, writes (6 July 2009):
 NO MORE PURGING. Bobbles32 has it right. agencies are not looking for people with eating disorders. In order to function correctly your body needs so many calories. When you eat, then purge, nutrition gets flushed as well. Then it becomes a borrowing game, where parts of your anatomy begins to borrow nutrition from others areas, then when all gone, chooses yet another to borrow from. Your body will then see this new method as being normal, so when you begin eating without purging, your body may see the eating as being abnormal and begin fighting against its self. This is not something you'll enjoy happening.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 July 2009):
 From the Wikipedia article on Bulimia:
Effects
These cycles often involve rapid and out-of-control eating, which may stop when the bulimic is interrupted by another person or the stomach hurts from overextension, followed by self-induced vomiting or other forms of purging. This cycle may be repeated several times a week or, in more serious cases, several times a day, and may directly cause:
Chronic gastric reflux after eating
Dehydration and hypokalemia caused by frequent vomiting
Electrolyte imbalance, which can lead to cardiac arrhythmia, cardiac arrest, and even death
Esophagitis, or inflammation of the esophagus
Oral trauma, in which repetitive insertion of fingers or other objects causes lacerations to the lining of the mouth or throat
Gastroparesis or delayed emptying
Constipation
Enlarged glands in the neck, under the jaw line
Peptic ulcers
Calluses or scars on back of hands due to repeated trauma from incisors
The frequent contact between teeth and gastric acid, in particular, may cause:
Severe caries
Perimolysis, or the erosion of tooth enamel
Swollen salivary glands
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 July 2009):
So if you were drinking so much you were passing out routinely, would your boyfriend have a good reason to freak out? Especially if his sister had been an alcoholic for 2 years? Would that make sense to you?
"Should I drop the weight?" is not a question you should be asking us. You should be asking your doctor. She/he knows you, your body and what a healthy weight for you would be.
Yes, you are legally an adult, but you are reasoning like a child. Why do I say that? Because you cannot understand the ramifications of what you're doing. Have you done your research on what happens to bulimics? Their teeth? Their bones? Their skin? Their internal organs?
Take care of this body, it's the only one you get in this life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): Your health is worth a lot more than any modelling job. I've seen models who aren't size zero. Size zero is just crazy, they should have real women.
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reader, mytwocents +, writes (6 July 2009):
 I’m sure people have already told you, but: pursuing a dream should make you happy, not mess you up for life--physically OR mentally.
Besides, the days of the super-skinny model are over. Look around, people want a “meatier” look.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): Okay look, no matter how thin you are, if you are ugly you won't get the job! no matter how much you puke, and as bobbles 32 says lots of models are being turned away for being UNHEALTHY
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): Of course hes angry! Dont put him through what he had to deal with with his sister.
Now heres a secret: I used to do the same thing over a long period of time, and overall I noticed no major change in weight- thank god, I was underweight to start with. I only did it because of hurtful comments. Its gross. You physically force your body to do something it clearly does not want to do, its draining, heaving multiple times into a smelly bowl and your left with a bitter taste and tears running down your cheeks. Its crazy. Not to mention it rots your teeth.
If you wanna lose weight, which I doubt you need too, just eat healthily and excercise.
Good Luck xx
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reader, pebble  +, writes (6 July 2009):
 Well they do say models have no brains.
You sound like a child not an 18 year old woman. You know full well the damage you are doing to yourself, you must have been living under a rock if you failed to catch any of the media coverage about models dying in recent years because of this immature habit that you have developed.
Your boyfriend absolutely did the right thing by telling your parents. He should be proud of himself. And ashamed of you.
Carry on doing this if you want, you'll lose your boyfriend, your health, your looks, your youth, your parents, your friends... but hey, at least you'll still have your modelling contract.
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reader, ugh101 +, writes (6 July 2009):
 If you get too deep. You will kill yourself. Go get some help before its too late.God BlessXX
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reader, bobbles32 +, writes (6 July 2009):
OH grow up. You know if you're throwing up you have a problem and your boyfriend has every reason to be angry with you. FYI most agencies are looking for HEALTHY models, not eating disorder cases. Unless you're really short 105 is small enough.
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