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writes: Hi!I broke up with my boyfriend a while ago but now I have a hard time meeting new people. I joined a few clubs but I'm shy, so even though I go to the meetings, I don't really talk to new people. A lot of my close friends have left the city. I'm basically starting from scratch and the last time I had to make new friends was in elementary school. I feel lonely! Thanks for your help!
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reader, emilymarie26  +, writes (25 October 2009):
I'm just like you! What I've found works is if you go up to people in the club and let them know you're new. They'll usually take you under their wings and introduce you to other people in the club, which was always the hardest step for me. You already have something in common with everyone there since you all chose to join the same club, so use that as a spring board for making connections. Also, if there are ever activities outside of regular meetings, or if people invite you to do something, don't turn it down. The more you get out, the more chance you have at making a lasting friendship! If you make the effort to get to know someone and show interest in them, people return the attention. Good luck!!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 October 2009):
I'm sure you are lonely. The important thing is that you have joined some clubs and such where you can meet other people. That's great. I know what it's like to be shy, and I know it can be scary to speak to other people. But you'll find that there will be others just like you. Try just speaking to one or two people and asking them why you joined. Maybe even tell them you're shy and that you would like to speak to them. They'll undetstand, adn hopefully be friendly. You've made the step of joining the clubs, now be brave again and make the step of approaching one or two people. Good luck
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