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writes:My husband and I have been together for 12 years, but only been married for 9. We have 2 children together. When we met each other, he was dating someone else. He started cheating on her with me, then I became pregnant. He told me that he wanted to be with me and not her, so we started dating. After about a month, I caught him over at her house, but I took him back. Then we eventually got married. WELL NOW....I feel as though I am falling out of love with him. I am beginning to think that I stayed with him because of the kids and that at the time I wanted to prove to the other girl that "he was mine and not hers". I don't feel like making love to him anymore and I just don't care what he does. Recently at work, I have been talking to a "single" guy and I think I am beginning to have feelings for him. We exchanged numbers and have been texting each other, but nothing more. He has been saying to me that he needs/wants a girlfriend and that has got me thinking more and more about him. I don't know what to do. I can tell that my husband loves me and he tells me all the time that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, but I don't feel the same. So please, can anyone give me any advice on what to do? I don't know what to do. I'm confused!
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reader, dyeruz  +, writes (13 June 2010):
Or maybe you want to "fall out of love" with you husband so you can pursue this relationship with this guy. Listen it's all well and easy now a days to just up and leave a marriage just because one party is not "satisfied" Your husband loves you and is committed to you and your kids. If you really don't love him then tell him and discuss it, don't think he doesn't know you don't want sex with him or you're being less than intimate, get the stuff out in the open before secrets turn into grudges and lies then cheating.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 June 2010):
What a mess. I don't think you should be dating at all. I think you need to stop with all this cheating and lying that been going on. When you met him, he was with someone else, so it I can't say it's a surprise that he cheated on you. And then you took him back and now you're looking at another guy. Just stop and think here. This will really screw your kids up at this rate. They won't known what's happening if your husband leaves again, and you start dating. This is a disaster that is getting even worse. If you are not happy with your husband, then divorce him now, never take him back and spend time alone with your kids focusing on your kids. Don't just move onto another man. That's not the answer, and it will go wrong. Stop this now and just spend time alone with your kids.
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