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writes:there is a guy who proposed to me few months ago after being close for over three yrs...everythings going on well but since he is my first cousin i am afraid to proceed any further moreover he is a business man whereas i am a medical consultant.i always dreamt of having a consultant as my life partner,shoud i agree for him and compromise or wait for my special guy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): sorry to break it to you but if he has proposed then he probably thinks you are his dream girl. Try to find the perfect qualities in him and then see whether he is your dream guy. Does he love you? Does he look after you when you are ill? Does he want to give you a perfect life? If so then what more do you want? I hope that i could help
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): Never compromise where love is concerned - or deciding if a partner is right for you. I'm not sure of your connection, as you don't state if he is already a boyfriend, you just talk about being close for a while, that could mean anything.
If you have been dating for 3 years, why you would be with this guy when you know he is NOT what you want ultimately as a long-term partner/husband. If this is how you feel, you should let him go so he can build a relationship with a female who thinks he is everything she wants.
22-25 is still very young, you have many years ahead of you to meet and fall in love with a guy that makes you feel all the right things to marry. Just because someone proposes, does not mean you have to accept, and nor should you accept for any other reason than you love each other.
Of course all relationships become calmer a lose that first initial burn, that passion, chemistry...but one thing is for sure, if you don't hang out for all that before you marry someone, and you settle, compromise just to get married, when the marriage gets tough, as undoubtedly all marriages will go through, the bond of that initial chemistry, the love is not there to help you through, and to remember why you both married in the first place.
Only you know how you feel, and what you are willing to do to be married, but my advice is, remain single until you meet the one you don't need to ask such questions about.
Jilly x
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reader, Waiting for an angel  +, writes (13 June 2010):
Your profession should'nt keep you from loving someone. What if hes the love of your life? Are you going to risk losing him because hes not into medicine? Think about it its a tough decision but remember you dont know what you got until its gone. So if you let him go because of his profession he might be really hurt and if you reliaze its him you do want he might not want you back. Dont lose something good.
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