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writes:Ive been seeing this man for nearly 2 years now, but my family hate him because hes older than me, im 17 and hes 29. He has been nothing but nice to me since we met, but ive been slowly drifting away from my family, and i dont want that to happen, what should i do??? Reply to this Question
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (2 September 2007):
 My cousin was 14 when she started dating her boyfriend who was 10 yars older than her. I can remember how my parents and hers were pretty outraged, but after she turned 20 they couldn't care less anymore and have gotten used to him being with her.
My point is that they will get used to him with time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): I agree, he was 27 when you were 15! I know a freind like you and her older b/f was quite controlling, you be better off with an guy your age. Bit creepy he got he's hands into you when you were only 15, when your 27 you will look back at all the school kids and realise how wrong he was.
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reader, Alexis07 +, writes (1 September 2007):
Alexis07 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI didnt ask this question to have bitchy reply's like tha
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): you're parents probably think he's a creep. he started dating a 15 year old when he was 27. thats unnatural and they see it as taking advantage.
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reader, Alexis07 +, writes (1 September 2007):
Alexis07 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your answers. Kenny really helped me with his answer, and they've never met him properly, the last time they met my boyfriend introduced himself and my dad just walked away! my mum said hi bu that was it, they havnt spoken since ...
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reader, kenny +, writes (1 September 2007):
 Its always hard when parents don't approve of who we are dating, it causes all sorts of bad feeling and resentment.
Do your parents like him as a person or is it just the 12 year age gap that they are not happy with?.
At the end of the day you are 17 and legally you are entitled to date whoever you like. But just remember just because you are 17 does not mean that your parents stop caring. They are acting like this because they want the best for their daughter that they love very much. Try to understand it from their perspective, im sure you would be the same if you were the parent.
Im sure in time things will work out and you parents will come round, it may take time but im sure things will get better.
Take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): Don't drift away from your family for an older man, family is everything and their just looking after you. My family would be the same, well my sister would be worse but their just protecting you. I'm 17 and my age limit is 27. 30 is way too old. But each to their own
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reader, Escalaya  +, writes (1 September 2007):
 That's a sticky situation, hun.
But, the best thing to do is explain your feelings for him to your parents, and have him do the same. If they don't come around, any drifting away is being done by you. Your parents, and family love you dearly, they're just worried about you. They're trying to protect you.
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