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writes:I've been dating this guy for almost 2 months now we haven't really gotten serious. He is dating another guy which I am fine with since we aren't serious. However this guy does really hurtful things and I hear about it all the time. Everytime this happens the guy gets really upset for a few days and then they talk it out and he forgives the guy. I feel hurt by the fact that he allows himself to date someone that he knows is not good for him (he has admitted it himself). I don't want to wash my hands of the situation but at the same time I have no idea what I should be doing. Help? Reply to this Question
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (1 September 2007):
 If you were serious with him, in an open relationship, then YES, you get involved.
As it stands, you are not serious with him, so you do not get a say in who he spends his time with.
That being said, if you are not that serious, then stop listening to his problems, and stop being his therapist. Set the boundaries in place. You can not have it both ways.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): You can't really do anything. He won't put an end to the bad treatment until he decides its not on and stops it himself. Technically you can't step in as you're not exactly his boyfriend but someone he's having an affair with.
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