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anonymous
writes:I've been talking to a friend of a friend. He is 19 (I am 18) and we've never physically met.Recently he offered me £1000 to give him anal sex for two months.I REALLY need the money. I am broke and have a lot of debt to pay off. I've tried getting a job but it is literally impossible around here, plus I am still in school.What should I do?
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (27 August 2011):
Don't do it. You're basically selling yourself to be a sex slave to a stranger for a bargain price. No matter how much you need the money, you should NEVER consider to go that low. Besides, who says he won't rape you while he's at it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2011): I agree wholeheartedly with the "anon" lady who works as an escort.This particlar offer is dangerous, a RIDICULOUSLY low-ball insultingly CHEAP. Never sell yourself that short!If you do decide you can handle all aspects of this line of work (there's NOTHING "morally wrong" in my opinion about it as long as both parties are mutually respectful, sound legal adults.), be SAFE in all encounters, respect yourself before, during, and after, work alone (no "agents"/glorified or not-so-glorified pimps, see only respectful gentlemen on your own turf (greatly reduces risk of danger/law enforcement "stings" who tend to utilize hotel rooms), and realize that you cannot do this forever.Best of luck to you!
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (27 August 2011):
 Obviously it is your decision. He wants no strings anal sex and is prepared to pay for it. The money is what you need so it is well worth considering. Could you negotiate the price? Ask for more as 2 months is a long time for a £1000. Also, Remember to take and have all money up front before any sexual contact. Therefore, if you decide to do this, take the money first beforehand in cash. I don't judge you or him. It is a private arrangement and if you both come to agreement, then thats a deal. He wants pleasure and wants to pay for his pleasure with you.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 August 2011):
 Ask for more at least. He's offering you very little. If it was 1000 for one/two sessions it'd be more realistic, because that's closer to what escorts charge.
If you're gonna sell yourself, don't sell yourself cheap.
But, if he hadn't made the offer, would you have ever considered it on your own? Is it something you feel comfortable with? Is it even legal? Prostitution isn't legal in all countries, and I don't know the laws around this in your country. But if it is illegal to sell your body then think hard, because you don't want to end up broke and poor with no money and in jail on top of it.
Also consider your future. Will a future boss find out? Will it damage your future career? Will it damage a future relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2011): I'm sorry but even if you were an escort let's just say for 5 minutes you are in the busness!
What kind of deal is that? £1000 for 2 months worth of anal sex?
I am a low paid escort and let me tell you anal sex is dangerous and I don't take low payments for that kind of risk! Heck I don't even take as low as £1000 for one session of anal sex let alone 2 months worth and here's why...
Anal sex damages the muscles inside and around the anal area and can cause long term damage- short term at the very least. It is also very unhygenic if not performed properly.
Now back to the main point- should you exchange sex for money?
I know your desperate but this really isn't the asnwer. I got into this game many years ago and its an addictive game to be in. You tell yourself youl just do it once to clear your debt then it turns into 3/4 sessions to pay for a holiday/car etc the next thing you know your doing it full time for a living.
Also how do you fancy telling any future boyfriend you once sold your body? Do you think they will respect you? I gaurantee you they won't, theyl run a mile and quite frankly I wouldn't blame them.
This friend who made this crummy offer should be shown the door from your life because they are a very bad influence and they really don't have your best interests at heart. Your family however, do! Do they know how much debt your in? I'm sure if they realised they would offer some kind of help.
When I am low on money I always remind myself 'they can't take what I havnt got' and its true. No matter how much debt you are in, if you havnt got the money there's nothing you can do except keep looking for jobs to help dilute the situation.
Have you visited a cab bureau? You would be surprised how helpfull they can be. Have you asked mcdonalds for a job? Even the lowest paid jobs can help.
Good luck and DO NOT except the offer!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2011): My advice is don't do it. Although when you have no money it is extremely tempting, I wouldn't do it (i was asked when I was in a similar financial position, and I didn't do it). Apart from the fact that it can cause you real self-esteem issues, you get into a situation you may not be able to get out of. Some guys will do this, and treat you so badly so when your self-esteem is so low they can turn you into their prostitute and become your pimp. It is not a good situation to be in. I know how hard being in debt and being broke is, but if you do it, you will regret it. You are much better than this, but in the end it is your decision, but please don't do it, it is far too risky. Good luck.
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reader, Louise152 +, writes (27 August 2011):
Honey becoming a prostitute is not the answer you don't know the person anything could happen. If money is that short then you should ask your family for support, friends and your boyfriend.
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reader, Thelaird1 +, writes (27 August 2011):
 It depends if you are willing to become a prostitute or not.
I would strongly advise against it, as it will be something you have to live with for the rest of your life.
No amount of money can replace lost self respect.
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