A
female
age
26-29,
*abewithbrains
writes:Hiya...I'm Being Bullied... AGAIN! The real bad thing is that they've started on my mate as well. I used to just ignore them, but today I went to sit with my friends and some not so friends and they told me, quite bluntly, to go and sit somewhere else. Being the stubborn cow that I am, I naturally park my bags, sat down for a few minute, then, went to get a banana from the canteen for elevenses. When I got back, they'd chucked my bag half way down the field so hard that my water bottle leaked. The worst thing was, these girls I normally hang out with, who I like, just laughed with them and made fun of me and my friend. I know we're different, cause we both are really into playing music and we are both in the orchestra which is great but sometimes we're off school for concerts and stuff and people get really jealous. Also, we are both miles ahead in languages, I am learning 5 (English, French, Spanish, Russian and Mandarin Chinese) at the moment and speak french almost fluently, and my best friend IS French. We were picked on at the start of term but that soon stopped cause we just ignored them, and they accepted us, now they have come back and make me hate being at school.Normally, I would go straight to my teacher, but for these reasons, I can't:I strongly dislike my teacher and she has made it clear that the feeling is mutual. I don't want to be labeled as a grass.I loathe my Head of year and I don't want to upset my mum. Also, if my best friends mum finds out, she might move my friend, then I'll be on my own (I'm quite a loner :( )I'm really stuck now and I know if I talk to my mum she'll go straight to my teacher any way. What do I do?xxx
View related questions:
best friend, bullied, jealous, my teacher Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, joeyad98 +, writes (29 August 2010):
Try and keep away from them at all times, and if they do start to insult you tell them you will get a very tough person to beat the bullies up.
Hope it helps!
A
female
reader, babewithbrains +, writes (23 July 2008):
babewithbrains is verified as being by the original poster of the question Also, there's this girl in another form, and she wants to move to our form - which means one of us has to go to her form, and apparantly I'm "REALLY MEAN!!!!!" for not wanting to move and leave my friend behind!
Jelly
...............................
A
female
reader, babewithbrains +, writes (19 July 2008):
babewithbrains is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would try to sit with another group - but these people are the people in my class - all the girls except the annoyingly pretty ones without a braincell between them. It sounds kinda mean, but i really don't fit in with them
...............................
A
female
reader, Tevote  +, writes (6 July 2008):
 Hey there, I think what most people suggested-talking to a close teacher or something about it could be good. But on the other hand that doesn't always work, usually the people you tell on just get even more angry and bully you more because they know it was you who told.
when I get bullied I use the method of showing them that i'm not hopeless and defenseless, I hardly get bullied anymore because there was this one time where they thought I was just the quiet girl and they could tease me, they were wrong I believe one of them recieved a broken nose. BUt i'm not saying do that, I mean that was my approach they became scared of me but not to scared they actually don't talk to me , they're actually nice to me now.
MAybe you should just move away from them, honestly it could be the better option. It might stop causing the bullying, I think it's because you're around. If you're not near them then they wont bother to bully you, so just move from where you sit. Try and sit with a big group of friends, i'm sure other groups will welcome you.
I'm not so great with the bullying thing,but look at all the advice on here i'm sure there's some good ones.
...............................
A
female
reader, molly4 +, writes (5 July 2008):
 I strongly disagree with cupidguy. Do not laugh with them, this is just saiyng that what they are doing is okay. I have tried this method befroe and it NEVER works. You and your friend could maybe just start hanging out just you two, at least you have each other. Don't waste a minute on these so-called friends. If they dont want you around, then you dont want to be around them just stay away fromt them as much as you can, ignore them or brush off anything they say, and if you have the confidence, then think of a few comebacks for if they say something mean. Now id don't know if this wil work in your situtaion, but me and my friend were getting bullied by these really jackass of a guy, and we just said really quick sharp comebacks to whatever he said. He got put in his place, and now respects us and actually admitted that he didnt know what to say to us because we didnt react to what he said to us, and he know respects us. It's great, and at least you have a friend there with you. xoxo M
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): I know you feel you are stuck between a rock and a hard place, but you should not have to keep all these hard feelings locked up inside you. Is there any teacher you possibly feel close to that you could confide in? You certainly are a very talented young lady and I strongly believe you will go very far in life so don't let these bullies put you down. They simply cannot handle that you are gifted, so don't waste your time on these people, they most certainly don't deserve it! Focus your attention on your best friend because those are the memories you will cherish. I know its hard but just forget about them bullies, that's all they are, while you my dear are a talented little lady who will merely blossom.
I wish you all the happiness in the world chick. xxx
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): Being bullied is always difficult to handle, it's hard to ignore it and now it's your friend being bullied as well, which means, in someways, it makes it worse. From what you have said you are a very intelectual person, which makes the people who are bullying you very jealous, so you can either 1)Ignore them, not care what they think, because in the end, their opinions of you are worthless, 2) If it gets out of hand, then telling a teacher, your mum, any adult is advised and 3) Just think when your future is full of possibilities, they'll be working at Tesco's (no offense to anyone who works there)
Good Luck to you and your friend, hope everything works out
...............................
A
female
reader, DrPsych +, writes (5 July 2008):
 You are being picked on because you are brilliant. In some ways you have to toughen up because if you are intellectually gifted then you are going to stand out in the future and you will get negative attention from people who think you are better than them. However, bullying should not be tolerated in schools or anywhere else. There will be an anti-bullying policy at your school and I am sure you have one teacher who isn't a psycho that you can have a chat to about what is going on. You should tell your mum and don't suffer in silence. I went to a really rubbish high school where it was a constant battle between me and some of the girls in my year. I didn't understand why at your age but years later it was apparent that being bright makes you stand out from the crowd and risk being a target for those with no self esteem. In some ways I would say you have to learn to handle negative attention because you will encounter bullying in childhood and adulthood. Know that they are doing it because you are good. But I still think the school should step in to tackle the problem so speak up...it takes courage but worth it for sure!
...............................
|
