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writes:I have an average size penis ok, I used to be realy confident in myself UNTIL my girlfriend kind of let me know how large her ex was. I was like oh no and look at me. Iv turned so insecure now. Only yesterday her friend slept with a lad and I asked my lass if she seen her friend. She said " yes I asked her how he was in bed" I then said I bet u asked how big he was too. She didn't say she didn't she said " well you guys talk" why do they ask that if they don't want there man to be bigger? I don't ask my mates how tight or wide his girl is. So do you think I'm being stupid?
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (10 November 2010):
 Us women by nature are very curious and we like details, that's probably why she asked. My girlfriends and I talk about our sex lives all of the time. Guys that are too big hurt way too much for the sex to be enjoyable. And hey, average is average, but not every one knows how to use it, length doesn't really mean jack without girth (width) and as long as you know how she likes it, don't be insecure.
There is a reason she is with you and not her ex isn't there? Be confident in yourself.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (10 November 2010):
 How did she kind of let you know her ex was bigger? If her ex was so fantastic in the sack, don't you think she would be with him still instead of you? So I'm going to point out that you're probably better in bed than him, and size isn't all it's cracked up to be. For some of us women, it hurts if he's too big, we're walking around bowl legged the next day, or he hasn't a clue how to use it.
To echo what thewalkindude said, we're girls/women we're going to go in the bathroom and chit chat about our sex lives, it's a given. Don't take any offense to it, when it's a normal female habit.
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reader, RennieGeek +, writes (10 November 2010):
Well, I got really offended when one of my friends asked me how big someone I was sleeping with was. Personally it was none of her business but a lot of girls do talk.
However, I'm here to say, don't worry. Size doesn't matter. I've slept with small, average, large and I've had good sex with all. In fact, the smaller guy was great and really fun too!
Don't ask questions, and don't worry about it. Confidence is sexy and if you let your penis size get you all hung up then you'll be nervous in bed and that's no good!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 November 2010):
Why did you ask her those questions? You were the architect of your own downfall there. The fact remains that you're her boyfriend, and this so called 'bigger ex' isn't. It was short sighted of her to talk about size, but she's obviously not that bothered by it or you'd have been dumped.
You're not being stupid. You're just focusing on something that has no relevance and is becoming more and more of an issue. She's with you, not so called Mr Big. A man's penis isn't an indicator of whether he's a decent guy, and 99% of woman want a decent guy. So be a decent guy and quit torturing yourself already, or she will wind up leaving.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2010): Men talk about the size of women's boobs and the shape or firmness of their butt and flatness of the belly...I guess no one is interested in the size of the va-jay-jay, but women are definitely talked about amongst the men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2010): Girls talk, it's just the way we are. Just because they were talking about the size of this guys anatomy doesn't mean she wants you to have a bigger penis. Don't tell me you've never talked to your mates about the size of a girls boobs etc... does that mean you want your girlfriend to have bigger boobs? No, it's just silly girl talk don't take it personaly.
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