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writes:I really like this girl, and I think she really likes me. I am in a few classes with her, and I talk to her whenever I can in those classes. She always laughs and smiles whenever she is around me, and my best friend says she looks at me when I get out of my seat to get something. If I can't talk to her, I always try to make eye contact, and it seems as if she does to. I have known this girl for over a year and a half, and it seems if our relationship has accelerated and my best friend thinks she likes me, but I don't want to ask her out and fall flat on my face and ruin everything with her. Please help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2007): Why don't you try and drop her a few hints so that she can make the first move? That way she should be able to get the confidence to ask you out without you rejecting her.
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (11 March 2007):
 You are getting all the right signals here so i think you need to pluck up the courage and ask her out. You will never know if you dont try. Taking the first step is scarey and the fear of rejection is keeping you away. But you need to be strong and just go for it. If she says no which i dont think she will you just have to put it down to experience.
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reader, chunkymunky  +, writes (11 March 2007):
 hey there, well recently i've been on the end of that situation. I knew this boy for about 2 years properly & we are good mates, all my friends always say he stares at me and smiles at me all the time. Recently I got feelings back for him and he text me saying 'i love you'. I felt so appreciated and it was lovely because I never expected him to say or do anything about it because he's a little shy. Maybe you could try the same thing and see how she responds, if its 'what the hell?!' then you can pretend it was a friend of yours being an idiot, if not then reap the rewards because she'll be all yours :D hope i helpd xx good luck!
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reader, Farris +, writes (11 March 2007):
 The simplest thing do to is just ask her, I'm afraid.
Although, it sounds to me like you only ever really see this girl in school, right? Obviously you want to spend more time with her, but that's difficult if you're too shy to ask her. What I'd suggest is to arrange an outing with some of your friends one weekend and invite her telling her to bring a few of her friends too.
That way the pressure is off you to perform, and she'll see it less like a date. This way it saves you less embarrassment if she says no, because it won't be you that she's turning down.
If you go on this outing with your friends and hers, then it will probably become more evident how you both feel about each other, because you will totally hit it off and spend most of the time together.
The more time that you spend together, the more obvious it will become, and I think the more comfortable you will feel about asking her.
In the event that she does say no, or you don't hit it off, then she's probably trying to send you signals that she's not interested. It hurts to be turned down, but it's not the end of the world; after all there are plenty of other women out there!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2007): Well, you gotta go for it. She may change your life, or she may just turn out to be not what you expected... but life is too short to put off knowing. Play it cool, and if she shuts you down, she probably wan't the right girl anyway; there are planty of others:)
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reader, cd206 +, writes (11 March 2007):
 I think it's fairly certain that she likes you and I don't know where you've got this complex about it ruining your relationship from. Just ask her if she wants to go to the cinema one night. If she says no just accept it and if she says yes play it by ear and see how it goes. Not doing anything will ruin your friendship more because you'll never be able to get past this and will end up resenting her.
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