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writes:I'm a 16 year old girl. I'm not happy. I haven't been happy for a while, everyday it feels like I'm on the verge of tears or I just was to scream or punch something. I hate going to school because their's so many people. I have friends but I don't like hanging out with them lately. My teachers always tell me to smile more and people tell me I'm so quiet. But I'm not going to smile if I don't find something funny and I'm not going to talk for the sake of talking. Especially when the people around me are talking about how cute a celebrity is, or how hot a girl is. It makes me feel really uncomfortable when guys hit on me. I'm not self conscious, I'm pretty comfortable with the way I look. I have a nice family, and my mom asks me if I'm sad a lot. I don't know what to do. I'm so sad all the time and it feels like I should be doing something with my life. I can't have a real conversation with any of my friends. I've been feeling really alone for a while. I'm an introvert so I actually like being alone a lot of the time. But not this kind of alone. I feel really hollow and I just really want to cry. I don't know what to do.
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reader, lonelygirl11  +, writes (13 February 2011):
You're not alone. I'm 25 now and went through the whole of my school and college life feeling the exact same way. I still feel the same and have NO friends at all. I got called out of class numerous times by teachers asking if I was ok and the school counseller pulled me aside many times, but I just kept telling them I was fine and liked sitting alone. I was also bullied the whole way through school and never told anyone. It got so out of hand that a fella in my class told my parents about it. Don't bottle up these feelings. It sounds like you mom is worried about you. Talk to her, a teacher, or doctor, anyone you can trust. You will feel alot better after you do.
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reader, Ordinary Woman +, writes (13 February 2011):
Hey, it isn't easy being 16. People expect so much. If you don't know what to do that's ok.You present yourself as being shy, quiet and honest, these are good qualities. If you need to talk - well, you are here now, although I also feel that it is important for you to think about talking with an adult that you can trust or feel comfortable with, face to face even if it is just your doctor or teacher.It sounds like you feel under pressure to do or or be something that you are not. If you feel uncomfortable when a guy hits on you then you feel uncomfortable, there is nothing wrong with that (in fact it is a really good thing nothing to feel bad about at all). There is no reason to go rushing in to things that are do not make you feel right.Don't worry you are not alone, even if you feel like that right now.If you really do not know what to do, from experience the best thing to do is to stick to positive activities. Things that make you feel happy in a good way, things that you like. (even if it is just eating you favourite meal at first.)You said that you come from a good family, and it sounds like your mum is worried about you, how about you approach her for a little chat and say that you are not quite sure what to do, if she has got any ideas would it hurt to try a few things out?Try not to look too far ahead that could get really scary! It may not seem like it but things do change, be careful too, look after yourself. You are doing the right thing by talking about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): I know how you feel. Dont let anyone get a hold of your feelings. Just keep your head held high and people will stop bothering you about you being sad. I cant help you with your issue that people are hitting on you because I am always alone and it's depressing. I dont know how it is to have a true friend. Dont show your weakness and you'll last longer than me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): Hi, I know it's a tough time being a teenager. I had a very similar story. I am 25 right now. I hated school, I only just passed. From there I had a night job (preferred it because there weren't so many people around) and worked there for about 5 years. I didn't want people talking to me, or wanting to talk to people, and I was left like that. I didn't have much contact with anyone for that time (unless I had to). Slowly, I came out of my shell. Not that I'm a party animal or even that social. I only do it when I need human interaction, otherwise I am in my own world and liking it. I tried to have a relationship in the past year, and she shut me down (in a weird, conflicted way). I was devastated and went back into my shell. But just recently I came back out again. I resolved that I didn't want to be sad anymore. I want to be happy. Not necessarily happy in the common, out drinking, partying way. Just happy doing what I want to do, not what other people expect me to do. It's a struggle sometimes, and I relapse, but I try to work at it.Smile if you want to smile. Talk if you want to talk. Otherwise it'll be forced, and won't feel real. I actually realised I didn't laugh for a year. It was refreshing when I did.Since I've known, I have felt a bit empty. Like something was missing in my life. Becoming an independant person has filled a little of the void. The rest, I've accepted the fact that I don't have a "common" life, I won't have a wife or any children (mainly because of trust issues), and am blessed with the good people (the very few of them) that I have in my life.I express myself though art, music and writing. It's a passion that has grown for me. Some like to garden. Others become workaholics. Find your (positive outlet) passion.Even though people look like they have no problems at all, trust me they do. They don't want to be vulnerable and admit it. And if that isn't true, they're just too plain stupid.Hang in there, it gets better :)
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reader, SweetSmoochy  +, writes (13 February 2011):
 I think you might be depressed. Try talking to a counselor. They also have psychologists at school. You should tell your mom if youre feeling this sad all the time. If there's nothing bad going on in your life, it might be a chemical imbalance, and that's something that can be fixed. Best of luck love.
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