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I'm almost ready to end my marriage, what should I do?

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Question - (2 June 2010) 5 Answers - (Newest, 2 June 2010)
A male United States age 41-50, *ovingfool writes:

3 years ago i cought my wife cheating. i forgave her and took her back. however she continues to lie to me about everyday things. and the biggest thing of all is she wont open up and behonest and share her thoughts and feelings with me. and i feel if it dont change soon it might end our marrage of 11 1/2 years.

what should i do?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2010):

I'm going out on a limb here but I think she is probably just using you for financial stability. I think she is probably just stringing you along just enough to keep you under her control. I would suggest marriage counciling. If she is unwilling to meet you half way then I'd find the nearest divorce lawyer.

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A male reader, Kama New Zealand +, writes (2 June 2010):

Kama agony auntI second both of the other poster's. An ultimatum is the way. You have done something with forgiveness that I find amazing, and for it, if it is as you say, I think you are amazing. It's your wife's turn to be amazing with you, emotionally. If she can't or won't it seems that you may just hurt forever. Don't do it! Maybe the only way for her to open up is an ultimatum? Good luck -- I feel for you

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A female reader, raiders United States +, writes (2 June 2010):

raiders agony auntYour wife has cheated but you forgave her and you tried to have a fresh start. If she is being secretive and you feel she is with holding information than I suggest you ask her straight out. Tell her that for the sake of you marriage you would want her to open up, and also mention to her that even though you forgave her, she still has a long way to go for the trust to regrow.

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A male reader, lovingfool United States +, writes (2 June 2010):

lovingfool is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thank you for your feed back.

I just wish there was a way to help her open up.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (2 June 2010):

I think, to be honest, you need to give her the ultimatum here. You've already caught her cheating, but her behaviour is still very suspicious, and it could be that she still is cheating, or is just not in the marriage anymore. I think you've done enough here, and it's up to her to prove she's worth another moment of your time.

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