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writes:My Boyfriend just told me he is afraid that I will become too clingy. I feel as if i lost almost all of my friends because I work too much and a certain situation that makes things akward. When he told me i need to hang around my friends more it crushed me because I feel as if I cant talk to him anymore because im afriad I will get to clingy. I only want to talk to my friends because I want my relationship to work but having to hear these things from him makes me feel terrible. Whenever i feel terrible I hit an extreme low...currently I am now thinking of breaking up wih him because I don't want him to go through the pain of being with someone like me. I feel as if this is the only way to get therpy because my mom refuses to help me. please someone help me.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 February 2010):
I think your boyfriend is worried that you are becoming reclusive and isolated. He can see that you need to be out with your own friends doing things at times. It's not healthy for a relationship for you to never go out with friends, so it's important that you do. As for breaking up, don't. You have a guy who sounds like he really cares for you, and of course you deserve him because he chose you and wants you. You need to find out why you're becoming isolated and find out what's bothering you. Something is hurting you, and when you find out what it is and face it, then you'll feel far better about going out with friends and such.
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (7 February 2010):
 Sorry to hear your pain. At your age, when you are in love you just want to be with that person night and day. However boys feel differently. They feel they cant breath and need air. Listen to what he is saying. He is not dumping you. He wants you to hang out wit your friends more. find an interest or a job. Become more interesting. He will feel prounder of you and you will become more interesting and he will want you more. Dont be so available. Become a challenge and turn down his invites sometimes " because you are going out with your friends".
Try it and see! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): You are thinking too much. Why dont you take it as a general comment and move on normally, breaking up with him will cause both of you a lot of pain, I dont see a solution there. If you are doubtful of the reason why your boyfriend may have said that, why dont you sit with him and discuss this out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): You are young and I seriously think this guy is playing games with your head. If I were you I would concentrate on your friends and having a good time. Your young and you will have plenty of other guy's to choose from. Get out there and show him what he is missing. I think he seriously needs to grow up, and you need to get rid of him and don't let him mess with your head. Not worth loosing friends for. Men are like bus one goes and along comes another one. Hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): Its time for you to self-reflect. What makes you be so clingy? I normally stay away from clingy people as i feel the only reason they would approach was because they see me as some support vessal and thats not a nice thought!.
either talk to a counselor or self-reflect...
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