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writes:My boyfriend of 5 days and 8.5 hours is the love of my life. We have known each other for almost a month now and never go anywhere without each other! I'm a virgin and my boyfriend likes anal sex a lot. Should I just tell him I don't want it.. He says his ex really liked it though. What should i do?
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (31 October 2010):
 "5 days and 8.5 hours?" Are you serious right now? Do you even know him if it's only been five days? I've known my boyfriend for almost three years and I'm still finding out new things everyday. I don't think that you are in love yet. On the new relationship high maybe, but probably not love.So what if his ex like anal and he likes it. Do you like it? You haven't even had vaginal penetration yet and you want to know if you should try anal?If you want to try it then try it. But don't do it because he pressures you or because you think that if you don't that he will leave you, cause if he does that then he obviously never cared for you for the right reasons. Don't let him pressure you into doing things that you don't want to do or don't feel comfortable doing. Any type of sex; vaginal, anal, oral whatever, all of it has the potential of spreading sexually transmitted diseases. So be careful.
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reader, Nithyanala  +, writes (28 October 2010):
 I assure you it's entirely too early to be talking in terms of 'love of your life'. And even earlier to think about anal.
I won't suggest you end the relationship (though you should think about whether he's really as much into you as you are into him) but take a deep breath and consider this - I'm a bisexual transexual with considerably anal experience and I STILL have days when it hurts. For someone like you, who has the option of the relatively less painful vaginal penetration, indulging in anal just to please a guy would be unwise.
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reader, Mark-us  +, writes (28 October 2010):
if u really love this guy and u know he loves u too.... try the anal, u might like it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): If he's already talking about sex after 5 freaking days??? He's not in love with you. He just wants to have sex!! Please RUN from this man!! Tell him to go back to his ex!! No man should ever pressure you to do what you are not comfortable with. I Hate anal and will NEVEr do it. I am sure it hurts like hell even if you are lubed up! Plus its the easiest way to get an STD! You are a virgin, please save yourself for a man worthy of your love. My BF only brought up sex after a month of dating and then I felt comfortable to do it after 4 months. This was after he said he loved me and I knew in my heart he loved me.
My current BF wants anal too, he also wants a BJ. I told him I would consider it after i had his last name, as in after we are married but he should not get his hopes up LOL.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): Honey, you say your in love with your boyfriend of 5 days??? No way. Plus you have only known him a month and you should say No. Anal sex can spread STD's etc and if you don't want it say no. I also don't think your in "love." maybe lust?
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