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*achhbabes
writes:theres this guy who i was nearly going out with. i'm a virgin, but for some stupid reason i came up with this story that i wasnt and he believed it. i was just wondering, if i had sex with him, would he be able to tell that i am a virgin or not?please help if you can :) Reply to this Question
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reader, rachhbabes +, writes (4 May 2008):
rachhbabes is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks to everyone, they've actually helped loads. to let you all know, i wont have sex with him because we've had a big fall out and i'm gonna post a question with how to fix that so if anybody has any ways for me please answer it :) thanks everyone!
especially to mel2! what you wrote was exactly how i feel and maybe your right, maybe i do just want to be loved :)
thanks to everyone though.
keep them coming please :)
x
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (4 May 2008):
 most probably, he will notice some difference if hes sexually active and has had sex with both virgins and non - alike.
u wont be able to hide the fact ur in pain, not alll virgins do feel pain, but if ur one of the unlucky ones, good luck biting ur tongue when he penetrates u!!whether thers blood or not is not always an indicator, for all he knows u could of just started ur period... it does happen.. but the super tightness of ur vaginal area and ur facial expressions etc may be all he needs to know ur virgin. be honest and tell him, otherwise he will just thrust his cock in u and u wont like that one bit!!! if he knows, he will be gentle and work ur cookie area a bit to ease the act of penetration.
ur call, but if i were u, id tell him. aND lastly, jimmy it up. dont bareback without protection. i.e condom etc
or u will really have something to worry about. be firm, and be aware precum can still get u pregnant. coming anywhere near ur vaginal opening can get u pregnant. a pin sized hole in a condom can pose same risks. not to mention the stds u can get if hes got a dirty pecker. exercise caution sweetie!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008): You sound a lot like a friend of mine freshman year of high school, trying to act older by claiming to be very sexual. She tried to belittle me for wanting to wait. She was called a whore at school behind her back and to her face. Quit her first job because she was mocked so much. She was used by a lot of guys, including my brother because she made herself so available and ended up pregnant. Enjoy your first time of being used, it wont be your last. You are so cool! I am so sorry that I waited. I got to date the homecoming king in highschool (who was proud of me for my decision and never asked me to do anything I wasn't comfortable with) and be repected by everyone. Now I own my own home, have guys who beg just to buy me dinner and have a career I love. I could have shared her glory instead, damnit!
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reader, Lady lilly  +, writes (4 May 2008):
Your first time should be at least something you want to look back on and remember. If you feel close enough to this guy to loose your virginity to u should b able to let him know you are a virgin. I think if any thing he wood feel less awkward and hopefully be alot more gentle with you than if he did'nt. Please think about this some more it could be a much more enjoyable experience if you were a bit older so you could get your head around being sexually excited enough to enjoy it as much as him. Hope this helps a wee bit. Honesty honesty honesty, take care x
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reader, mel2 +, writes (4 May 2008):
For god's sake your still so young, you do not realise yet the importance of being pure for your first and special love. Making love is so special, can't you understand that men (once your mature enough) prefere a woman to be a virgin (untouched) i know your probably having a laugh at this reply, but believe me unless you have been dragged up or have a bad reputation then you must never think of having sex before being 16yr. If you are hanging around with bad people ignore what they are telling you ok! Maybe they your friends think it's cool to have sex so young! They won't think it's so cool when they catch a decease of some kind, even aids. When your older, you will thank me, and i truly wish you so much happiness as you sound so sad. You may just want to be loved, this is not the way about it ok! Speak to your mum if possible, or write to me again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): It depends entirely on how much experience he has, and if he has any experience with a virgin. There is honestly no way for anyone but the guy in question to know that answer. I don't see why you lied to him though, is it cool these days to be sleeping around at 13? I don't get it.
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (3 May 2008):
 Speaking clinically for a minute, women have a vaginal membrane called a hymen. In the traditional since, a woman is considered a virgin if the hymen hasn't been broken. I don't know if he could tell if you were a virgin on your first sexual encounter, but I *think* that you might actually bleed a little bit when the hymen gets broken, and if he sees that, then he might know.
Remember, I'm not a woman and this is all from memory... your milage may vary!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): hey, first of all - if you really want to have sex with him, in my opinion you should be honest with him. its nothing wrong with being a virgin and especially not at your age!!!
if you would have sex with him he couldnt tell whether you had sex before or not. well maybe if you would be very unsure or so he could think you seem to be too unexperienced for not being a virgin anymore. but he couldnt actually FEEL if its your first time or not. but do you really wanna have your first time with someone you cant be honest with? are you afraid to tell him you're a virgin? please make sure you really trust him and you are ready for sex. please take your time honey ok? and never forget safe sex.
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): it mostly depends on whether he is a virgin or not... but no, i don't think he would be able to tell.
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reader, Andrew83 +, writes (3 May 2008):
 Well, untill your 16 i would advise you not to have sex (legal age is 16 in the uk)..
I would say he may know if your a virgin but not alot of info was given about him, his age.. He may know as you would hurt alot in that area, may bleed, maybe more.
Be honest with him is the best course of action for you here, you would have gone against the law if you had sex before 16.
Hope this helps you
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reader, Misti Hdz +, writes (3 May 2008):
 unless you bleed after sex he won't be able to tell. If you want him to know before hand, you can tell him, I mean it would be different if you told him you were and you realy weren't. I don't see why any guy would have a problem if you told him that you were realy a virgin, youo just better have a good reason as to why you would lie about that
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reader, NervousSexDude +, writes (3 May 2008):
well im guessing that it'll hurt a little for you when you first have sex so he may notice then. Best bet is to talk to him, just sit him down and tell him before it gets too late. Sorry if thats a bit vague :)
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