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writes: Virgin at 29 YearsI know this may seem weird but it is true. I am 29 yr old woman, who is asking for your help. I am still a virgin. I go out sometimes. In a month i may go out 3 times. I work, l have a good job good life. But i am ready to lose my virginity. What am l doing wrong?Regards,
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007): hi my name is dave i am 18 and still a virgin same here i have a good job i work in a building society go out with my mates nearly every night. been in situations with girls where i have neally lost my virginity but then i just screw it up my nerves just get the better of me i supose .
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2006): That's fantastic 'hungery 4 some'.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2006): Don't know, I'm 25 and still havent lost mine - but i meet loads of people!
am i trying too hard or giving off the wrong signals?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2006): meet me 20yr old virgin and we can lose it togeather
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reader, Honest +, writes (5 May 2006):
I have to be honest I do find it a little wierd. That may be because most of the people I know lost theirs at an early age and those that still have it, have it for a reason!
A good friend still has his virgintiy and he's 25 this year! His main issue is could be called 'low self esteem' or just 'plain lazy'. He rarely goes out, probably the same as you, 2 or 3 times a month. When he does it's always to the same places! He's never going to meet anyone he hasn't already met if he doesn't get out of his comfort zones.
My advice would be to find something you'd like to do... ie. salsa classes, yoga, a college course etc. and go and do it!!! This way you will meet more people, more different people and can go from there!
Don't be in such a hurry to 'get laid' with the first person you meet, take it easy and date first. Not every man is after sex on the first date, and for now don't mention your a virgin, well not untill the sex issue comes up...as that would make me run a mile.
My apologies if this is a little blunt, but sometimes patting you on the back and saying 'it'll be ok' isn't the best option.
Whilst some people find holding on to your virgintiy a 'gift' others like me do find it a little off putting.
Honest
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reader, averagejoemale +, writes (5 May 2006):
I can see your concern and will to lose it because the fact is that probably most people you know have lost their virginity and you feel the odd one out. Let me tell you this, if I found a woman, who was a virgin at your age and I could see that she was with me because she loved me and respected me, I would respect that woman much more and ensure that everything was done right. Rather than a night out, back to mine, a drink or two and then in bed. You should be proud, and patient, someone will come along! I read in an earlier post that someone said sex isn't that good anyway, I disagree, if your emotionally attached to someone, sex is the best thing in the world!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2006): I wish I could meet a women that hasn't slept with so many people. it seems with the more people they've slept with, the more emotional baggage and issues towards men and sex they have. Good on you for still being a virgin, save it for someone who really loves you and deserves to take it. :)
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reader, Blooregard +, writes (4 May 2006):
Why do you want to lose it so badly? Look at the problems cause by sex: diseases, hurt, betrayal etc. You are worth more than the simple category of "virgin/non-virgin" do it when it feels right for YOU not when society says you should lose it.
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reader, Sis6372 +, writes (4 May 2006):
Its not weird or uncommon that your a virgin at 29. I think you need to slow down, you should be proud of yourself for holding off this long, don't waste it. Its a precious thing and you want your first time to be memorable. GOOD LUCK!
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reader, bonym  +, writes (4 May 2006):
 My dear what is the problem? So what if you are a virgin at 29, you should not be ashamed of that. If you keep seeing your virginity as something to be lost n such a hurry, you wont get anywhere. When you meet a guy and fall in love, then you will know when it is right. Most girls lose their virginity at 12, 13 and that is way to young. My friend regrets losing hers so young, she has medical problems now as a result of sex too young. But you should not be ashamed that you are chaste, its a blessing. xXx
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reader, Tilly1983 +, writes (4 May 2006):
 take your time do not rush and have sex with the first guy you think is the one just wait and it will happen when your in a relationship
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reader, ellie87 +, writes (4 May 2006):
It will just happen when least expect it... its nothin to be ashamed of. Sex isnt that good anyway!! well for most woman it aint. Men are only interested in them selves! Just wait until you are in love it will be so special... dont just throw your self at anyone... good luck!
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reader, Anja +, writes (4 May 2006):
 Nothing .... keep hold of your viginity, see it is a wonderful gift to give to someone you love and are in a commited reltionship with. These days it seems people can't wait to jump into bed with whoever, they don't seem to think of the consequences. At 28 I wish I was a virgin!! I would be very proud. It should make you more determined to make sure you lose it with someone who you truly love etc, not some hot shot guy picked up in a club! Who cares what age you are...just make sure you give this gift to someone who will appreciate and not take for granted! XX
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reader, Solution Sarah +, writes (4 May 2006):
Its not weird that you are still a virgin, its uncommon but not weird, there is no expected time scale for which we have to "lose it", its when we are ready, and if you think you are then great, it always depends on how much you really "want it", never exploit yourself, not when youve waited this long, i'm a firm believer that it needs to be special, one to remember, not necessarily with the person your going to spend the rest of your life with, but just dont get taken advantage of, try to find some other single people, maybe go to a date night, or singles night out. Nine time out of ten you wont find them when your looking, just keep going out and having fun, talk to different people and make more friends, i'm not saying advertise yourself but make it subtly known that you are available, nowadays most men are just too shy to ask!!
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reader, Solution Sarah +, writes (4 May 2006):
Its not weird that you are still a virgin, its uncommon but not weird, there is no expected time scale for which we have to "lose it", its when we are ready, and if you think you are then great, it always depends on how much you really "want it", never exploit yourself, not when youve waited this long, i'm a firm believer that it needs to be special, one to remember, not necessarily with the person your going to spend the rest of your life with, but just dont get taken advantage of, try to find some other single people, maybe go to a date night, or singles night out. Nine time out of ten you wont find them when your looking, just keep going out and having fun, talk to different people and make more friends, i'm not saying advertise yourself but make it subtly known that you are available, nowadays most men are just too shy to ask!!
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