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writes:This is going to sound really stupid but here goes... I am 20 years old, and my parents are going away for a month to the other side of the world.. I am feeling a bit nervous about being myself.. me being on my own during the night. I have always had a fear of anyone breaking in, but when the parents are here I feel safe. It makes me laugh.. coz all we do is argue!!! I can't go away due to Uni commitments so they are off without me. I recently lost my gran, she was diagnosed with cancer and died 2 weeks later, we all moved in to look after her. Words can't describe how close we were and how much I miss her, I'm always upset.. even although it was 5 months ago!! I'm scared to think about my future.. coz she aint in it. Is this maybe why am feeling a bit nervous about them going away? Last time they went away for the week and I was with my gran some of the time. I feel like I've not got anyone here while they're gone. I have my partner, but he works till 2/3am so am gonna be myself most of the time. I feel a bit silly considering I am an adult! Any ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2009): well it's been a week.. i'm kinda getting used to being myself, but i'm missing my mum terribly. i just can't wait for them to be back..
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2009): thanks, will let u all know how it's going.. xx
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (8 March 2009):
 loving arms pretty much covered all the bases, but to put your mind at ease about someone breaking in then try this:
put your key in your pocket and lock all the doors, close all the windows and then walk outside.
Take 15-20 minutes and try to break into your own house (without breaking any windows of course)
I did this with my house and found that if you turned the doorknob far enough and pushed hard then my door would open. We fixed it immediately.
Try this, it might help, if you see any problems then ask for them to be fixed before they go away.
:)
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reader, loving arms +, writes (8 March 2009):
Firstly 5months is not time at all when we loose someone we love. Grief has no time limits so crying for your loss if normal after years let alone this short amount of time. As for being alone and scared, again very normal feelings even for people much older than you.
You said you're at uni, is there any chance you could invite a friend to come and stay? If you have a few friends maybe offer them a week each at your house, so you have the month covered.
You could also tell your parents about your fears so they could arrange to have some of their friends keep an eye on you.
I hope you have a lovely time while your parents are away.
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