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writes:I am 67 year old man, widowed and I have met a 54 year old lady but she thinks I am to old for her. We have gone out several times and I feel like I am in love with her. But she thinks that I am too old for a relationship with a woman her age. How can I persuade her that I am not to old to have a relationship with her? Reply to this Question
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (28 November 2015):
 Aw..I'm sorry hun. Some things are just not meant to be. Sadly she doesn't share the feelings that you have. There isn't anything that you can do to change her mind, as was said..a woman of 54 knows what she wants/likes. The harder you might try to convince her, the more you will push her away. I am 54, was married to a man 10 years older than me once, and I have to be honest, I can't see myself seeking out an older man again. My husband is 6 years younger than me. If an older gentleman had come along and swept me away who knows? I met the man that I did and fell in love because of who he was..not his age.
I'm afraid the chemistry just wasn't there for the lady. If it had been, I don't think the age difference would have been a problem. Be a gentleman that I'm sure you are and accept her decision with grace. There are plenty of lovely ladies out there..don't sell yourself short and pine away for one who can't see the wonderful man that you are!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 November 2015):
 You can't. If SHE thinks that the age difference is a "deal-breaker"..... then it is.
Suck in hard, puff out your chest and say (to yourself): "OK... she and I won't become an item.... but I'll keep looking for a girl who deserves me...."
Good luck...
P.S. I date a woman who is about 10 years my senior....
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 November 2015):
 You cannot.She is entitled to decide what's the max.age gap she is comfortable with and,trust me, by now, at the age of 54,she knows very well what she is comfortable with or not.Some women do not mind a 13 years more age gap;many others do mind and she is among them.More so insofar sue due not exclude gong out with you on principle.She tried and found confirmation to her idea that the age gap sets you too apart for the relationship she wants.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (27 November 2015):
 OP, at this early stage what you're describing sounds more like infatuation and not love.
The woman has stated her limits and all there is for you to do is respect them. If she felt a strong enough attraction to you she'd overlook the age difference. I'm afraid she's just not that into you.
Best to leave her be and set your sights elsewhere.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (27 November 2015):
 You are running against a huge hill here and I think that you will never convince her. People have definitive age preferences, and just the way you seem to like them younger, she definitively does not like a 13 year older man. It really does not matter why she doesn't.
Perhaps you are maybe misreading her courtesy for romantic advances?
There is a very small subset of women who like much older men and from my experience these tend to attach in their young age, like in 20s or early 30s. During 50s, single women tend to prefer younger men... at least that is what I see through my job.
I'd suggest you don't get worked up on her and find a way to leave her alone.
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (27 November 2015):
At 67, some guys are ready for the nursing home while others are still active, stylish, fit and interesting. You don't say where you are on the spectrum. Just try to embody these qualities and be the type of guy she wants in her life.
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