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writes:Hi I'm currently 25 and I still like talking to young girls in their late teens. My parents say that it's illegal to date girls 17 or under. I don't understand why it would be so bad. Sex is a different issue, but I'm talking about just being close friends with teens within that age group. Any advice on this issue?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes I am aware that most countrys hold the age of consent to be age 17 or 18. I do know that in order to have a real relationship sexually, both people have to be at least 18 or above since everyone is considered an adult then. I do have some friends who are under that age, and it's nothing more. The law is kind of unfair that way, but I guess theres a reason it's that way. That's all I have to say for now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2012): I would be very afraid if you DIDN'T find a developed girl attractive.
You are biologically programmed to find them so, if they are towards the tail end of puberty and at the best child bearing age.
That said, there is a reason most civilised countries hold the age of consent to be 16, or anywhere from 16 to 18.
If they are at the age of consent or above, what you guys do is no one else business. If they are below, stay the fuck away from them. Simple as that.
There is no such thing as a 'friendship' between at teenager and and older person who are not related to each other. It's either a legal thing or it's not. There is no in-between.
You are, at most, able to mentor them with advice if they need it of seek it out. You are not there to be their friend, or anything more until they are at the point the law judges them able to make decisions about sex for themselves.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (10 April 2012):
 The reason why people have a problem with GROWN MEN talking to CHILDREN is because what on earth does a grown man have in common with a teenager? What do you want to talk to these teenage girls about? Why cant you talk to women over the age of 20?
If you are only looking for friendship, why are you choosing girls to talk to and not other men as well?
It sounds like you have alterior motives behind talking to these young girls, I know you claim you dont want to have sex with them but realistically, why would a 25 year old man want to talk to a child when they dont have anything in common?
If you are 'close friends' with children when you are an adult that is basically known as 'grooming' - where you are getting close to them, building a relationship so they trust you and feel comfortable around you, so eventually you can make your move and get them to be in a romantic relationship with you and eventually have sex with you.
If you want to make friends - make friends with people your own age. You are playing with fire by trying to become 'close' to children, you will be reported by one of the girls parents if you carry on like this and you will get a criminal record. It is not worth it - so get a grip and stop hanging around with kids.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (10 April 2012):
 Man, you're playing games with yourself.
The law doesn't say "we're just hanging out". It forbids you from staying close to them with any romantic intention.
Capisci?
And no, I don't believe you that you just want to make friends. Not even your parents do. Why would that be?
I trust you will be smart.
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reader, PerhapsNot  +, writes (10 April 2012):
 I am 27. Wen I was 25 I was not interested in talking to teenagers because we did not have any common ground. No one that I knew wanted to hang around teens either. If you're 25 and you like to talk to teenagers, you're either:
1. Mentally immature and cannot relate to people your age
2. Targeting teenage girls because they lack experience and you feel more in control and wiser
Do you see 17 year olds wanting to speak to 13 or 11 year olds? No, right? It's because they're kids. You're talking to slightly older kids essentially. The question I pose to you is this: WHY do you enjoy talking to them? WHY is it so much better than talking to your own age group? What attracts you to teenagers specifically?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey I don't mean any harm in hanging out with the odd underage girl. I don't get why some people see it as offensive. I know some friends who are a bit over 20, and talk to the odd teen girl. I didn't mention sex or anything, so really there is no harm in it.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (10 April 2012):
Yes. You think there is nothing wrong in "talking" to underage girls, but the rest of the world thinks you're trying to do more than "talking". Hell, I believe you're trying to do more than talking. So stay away from underage girls, forever and ever. Whatever your good purposes, appearances matter.
Capisci?
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