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writes:I had a FWB relationship for over a year, very easy going no love job or complicatiions It just fizzled out and that was it. I get a random text sometimes. Today I bumped into him for the first time, I was in a rush but he spoke so I stopped for a minute. He looked well but I didnt want to rip his clothes offIt got me thinking that he has probably got somebody else now. But I havent, it was the only time I have ever done the whole FWB thing.Just thought I would try it.I never wanted more from him as he wasnt the type I would dateSo, do you think men who have you as a FWB would never date you because your just not their ideal or type, or purely because you are prepared to have sex with no agenda?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2012): "Just seem alot of people get emotionally attached to their FWB when the whole point is to be casual"
Of course, you can't expect to that get intimate with a person, pretty much acting like boyfriend and girlfriend for a few hours or a whole night, regularly and not expect feelings to develop in at least one of you.
I've had a few and feelings always develop. Sex is not something easily separated from strong emotion, you can put as many rules and conditions on it as you like, you simply can't control what happens.
It seems to me if he was asking you for proper dates then he was interested in more from the outset.
Be careful with FWB type scenarios, just because you can remain detached don't always assume the other person can, also try not to assume you'll be always be bullet proof either, feelings have a tendency to creep up on you when you least expect them and most of the fuck buddies I've had one of us got hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2012): I am the questioner , yea I can see the present buying stuff would show they were into you. My FWB was like that, presents and communicating well asking for dates too. Not what I wanted as I was too busy so it just faded.
Just seem alot of people get emotionally attached to their FWB when the whole point is to be casual
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reader, grymsoul  +, writes (10 April 2012):
 There are different kinds of FWBs. I've had some who I would date but the circumstances weren't ideal, only sex was. And then there was FWBs that I could never see myself dating but I did lust for them physically.
It really depends on the actions of the other person. If he's only interested when it's time to have sex then he doesn't see you as dating material. If he's asking you out and buying you gifts, texting frequently and dropping hints about his feelings, then he more than likely wants more than FWB.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (10 April 2012):
 Well, you are sleeping with him and he isn't the type you would date. So maybe the answer is yes.
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