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*uriouslove
writes: im twenty one and attracted to a thirty seven year old man. we have known eachother for seven months and the atrraction has grown stronger since then. at first i wasnt really in to him mainly because of the age but now we seem to talk about everything and the age doesnt matter that much. he kissed me before and it just wasnt there and i think that was because i didint like him like i do now. i think about kissing him sometimes but then i dont want him to read anything into it if i still dont feel any "sparks"! i need help is this somethimg i should try?
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reader, Psychology101 +, writes (7 May 2010):
I think you should for for it, you only have experience to gain. send me a PM if you need more help
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reader, rainbowmaker +, writes (5 May 2010):
When i was 15 i started going out with a guy that was 25! I know! What an age gap! That relationship ended up lasting 6 years! 6 years that unfortunately i will never get back! Then i was also in a similiar situation to you where i too was 21 and there was a guy i liked that was 36/37. The difference was though that we were totally attracted to each other. We had such a good time together, the laughs we used to have BUT it was bad timing and things didnt work out. At first i was annoyed about this but i now realise that it was the best thing to not get too involved, it never would have worked. I think you have a crush on this guy and thankfully that feeling will pass. Go with your gut instinct. By all means if its what you want, give it a try but from personal experience i dont think this is the start of a lasting romance. Go for your fairytale and dont settle for anything less ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): If you don't feel into it when he's kissed you in the past, he's probably just trying to pick you up because you are so young, thinking you're naive enough for it to work. There are alot of guys out there who think that way, unfortunately, so I would think really long and hard about jumping into any relationship with him...I mean, I've seen people together with that type of age gap, but there are alot of people out there who will try to pick up someone your age because they figure you are vulnerable and naive, so be very careful how close you get to this guy, you might just regret it.
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