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writes:I'm 20 and I'm pregnant. I am on the pill and I've never missed one, although I am on anti-depressants so maybe that has stopped them from working? My doctor never mentioned it, so I think I've just been really unlucky. Except, I wouldn't class it as unlucky because I'm loving the thought of having a child with my boyfriend. We've been together for almost 4 years now, so I consider it to be a very stable relationship. I only worry because we only have part-time jobs at the moment and I live with my mum and he still lives with his mum. I'm just scared that everything is going to be a big massive rush and I'm worried about money. Because we want to be able to look after our child and not struggle. I just want some calming words to help me understand that everything will be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2011): Im in the exact same boat. Just found out on March 9th that I am four weeks pregnant. I just turned 20 in february and have been with my boyfriend on and off sine I was sixteen. I'm also still living with my mom, I have not told her yet though. Im scared and excited but I know there is nothing I cant handle.. I still plan on continuing my long distance courses for my business admin and hopefully one day soon get a place with my boyfriend. It still doesn't seem real.. It will be hard but you can do it. The worst part for me is having to give up coffee, went from four pots a day to two cups. Ahh! It will all be worth it in the end though.. Hang in there.
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reader, live2loveandlearn  +, writes (7 March 2011):
Have you brought this up with your family? Your mother will definitely be a big supporting role for you if you are honest and open with her (and let her get over the shock initially). These are hard times, and there will be a lot of stress and worry. If you honestly feel that you want to have the child, then be taking the actions now to make sure that the child is as healthy as possible. Quit taking the pill ASAP, and consult with your doctor immediately regarding if you should change your anti-depressant medication. Start on supplements and all the fun stuff your doctor will tell you about.Unfortunately no one can guarantee that you and your boyfriend will not struggle in some manner during this new phase in your life. It may be emotionally, in the relationship, financially, or in any other manner. However, if you take the work to keep yourself and your child as healthy as possible, then you are taking steps to prevent the worst worries. Try to keep positive, work hard, and take care of yourself. Do these things and everything will come together in due time. Good luck with everything, and keep us updated.
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (7 March 2011):
 Have faith, I'm sure you will be fine. At least you guys have jobs and love each other. That is half the battle right there.
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (7 March 2011):
 Is your boyfriend also happy and supportive? If so, that's a real plus. You are very young, but even so, age doesn't always dictate love. had you two talked about marriage and life together before this happened? If so, that's even better. I highly suggest you two start trying to look for more solid work as soon as you can. Especially your boyfriend now, and you look for more work after the baby comes. Get second jobs, new jobs, or an hour increase at your current jobs. Have your parents involved, as they will be your best support networkIt'll be tough for you guys, but with love and hard work, you can do it. Best of luck!
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reader, AlwaysHereToHelp! +, writes (7 March 2011):
 Hello :)Haveing a baby is a very exciteing and worrying time, especially when money is involved. But all i have to say is dont worry as remember now you are carrying a beautiful little baby and you dont want to get stressed out. And i am sure everything will be fine its normal for couples to worry about money when a new member of the family is on the way but trust me i am sure things will work out fine for you. Not to mention im sure you have a loveing boyfriend and parents who will support you all the way. Just think your going to be a mum and have your own beautiful family you should be so happy !! :) Good luck with you and your familyHope this helps ;)
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